Dr Nicole LePera

09/06/2026

09/02/2026

💌🎉 YOU’VE GOT MAIL! My complete guide to reparenting just dropped. Remember to check your spam and promotions folder. .circle members it’s waiting in the portal for you. HAPPY NEW YEAR, everyone. Had to re-share this video still makes me giggle

09/01/2026

You know I couldn’t leave LA without gifting copies. Appreciate all the love and support you all gave me. Go find them in front of shutters hotel on the beach

09/01/2026

This month I’m presenting a workshop very close to my heart in .circle on functional freeze. I know this state all too well and over the past couple of years I’ve really learned how to get my body out of freeze. It’s changed my life. If you want to join when we open doors Jan 1st, comment WAITLIST. Then check your DM. Spaces do sell out, this ensures your spot

08/31/2026

A secure partner is able to hear things in a curious way. Instead of being highly defensive or reactive, they come from a place of understanding. This means saying things like: “Ok, I understand you’re overwhelmed— how can I help?” “That’s a lot. How can I support you?” “Are you venting, or do you want me to step in right now?” It also means resisting the urge to go tit for tat: “well I do x, y, and z!” “you act like I never help!” “Oh sorry I’m just the worst why are you even with me” We develop more security by responding to things in a mature way. By coming together instead of bracing for a fight. And by realizing it’s RARELY personal. If you want to become a more secure partner and build healthier relationships .circle is opening in a few weeks. You’ll have immediate access to: - Hundreds of hours of workshop on relationships, attachment, and boundaries - A private community of like-minded people away from social media - Exclusive content/worksheets to dive deep into your healing journey Spaces do sell out. To secure your spot comment “WAITLIST” and a link will be sent to your DM

08/31/2026

For people with an avoidant attachment style, being close sends the body into fight or flight. A partner having needs or wanting to connect can feel smothering. If you have an avoidant attachment style it’s important to: 1. Have a conversation with your partner: share your avoidant patterns and your triggers. Let them understand you and where the behavior comes from. Be in communication. 2. Widen your window of tolerance: when you want to avoid, take deep breaths. Teach yourself you don’t need to flee. When you feel the stress come up, just stay in the conversation. If multiple people have told you you’re avoidant or unavailable, be open. Ask directly: “how can I be more available?” “what do you need from me right now?” 3. Be honest: avoidant attachment is on a spectrum. Some people have deeper patterns where they’re just not ready to be in a relationship. Or, they don’t want one at all. Be upfront and fully transparent with people around you. It will save you future resentment Follow: .holistic.psychologist for more on attachment styles.

08/30/2026

If you’re ready to heal from narcissistic parents or partners .circle is opening Sept 1st 🎉 You’ll get immediate access to an exclusive workshop by narcissism expert . Spaces do sell out. Comment “WAITLIST” then check your DM to secure your spot

08/29/2026

.circle opens Sept 1st! If you’re on the waitlist you will get FIRST chance to join. Comment “WAITLIST” then check your DM to secure your spot

08/29/2026

.circle OPENS SEPT 1ST You’ll get immediate access to content and workshops from attachment experts and learn how to build secure attachment in your relationship Comment “WAITLIST” then check your DM to secure your spot! Spaces do sell out

08/29/2026

If you grew up around unpredictability, chaos, criticism, neglect, abuse or simply not knowing what version of someone you were going to get - then "understanding" became VERY useful.

"If I can understand it, maybe I can predict it. If I can predict it, maybe I can protect myself" and that survival strategy can quietly follow you into healing.

Now, you need to understand every symptom, trigger, emotion, nervous system response, thought, reaction, behaviour, pattern, relationship, defence, piece of your childhood, part of your psyche, bit of your ego, cell in your body. Every 👏 fu***ng 👏 thing 👏.

It can look like extraordinary self-awareness, but sometimes it's hypervigilance wearing a very clever disguise.

Information can be like co***ne when understanding has historically helped you feel safer. Another theory, another podcast, another expert, another explanation. And the healing industry can feed this beautifully.

Practitioners offering extraordinarily complicated frameworks alongside extraordinarily strict rules about how you're supposed to heal can feel "safe". But complexity doesn't necessarily give you certainty, sometimes it makes you even more uncertain.

Maybe you barely understand what they're saying, and maybe they understand your nervous system better than you. Maybe they can see what you're missing. Maybe you need their framework, their rules, their next course.

Complexity can look like expertise but complexity isn't automatically helpful, and being difficult to understand isn't proof that something is profound. Sometimes it's very clever smoke and mirrors. Whether intentional or not, pay attention to what someone's work leaves you with...

Do you understand and trust yourself more? Or are you increasingly scared of getting healing wrong and dependent on someone else to explain you back to yourself?

Spot the delicious irony in you learning something about yourself from THIS post 🤣 maybe you follow me because my explanations help things click. Maybe you've saved 47 of my posts for later, I do it too! Worth being mindful over, for sure.

Thoughts?