05/31/2026
Are you stuck in high conflict cycles of fighting? Threats of divorce? Do you or your spouse have a history of childhood abuse, trauma or neglect? For many high-conflict couples in Merritt Island, Florida, the real fight isn’t about dishes, money, parenting, intimacy, or communication. The conflict is often fueled by old wounds that neither partner caused—but both are carrying.
If you grew up with childhood trauma, emotional neglect, criticism, abandonment, domestic violence, alcoholism, unpredictable caregivers, or s*xual abuse, your nervous system learned how to survive. As adults, those same protective parts can become activated in marriage.
One partner may shut down, withdraw, avoid, or become emotionally unavailable.
The other may pursue, criticize, demand reassurance, or become overwhelmed by fears of rejection.
Underneath the anger are often deeper feelings:
✨ “I don’t feel safe.”
✨ “I don’t feel important.”
✨ “I’m afraid you’ll leave me.”
✨ “I never feel good enough.”
✨ “I don’t know how to trust.”
When childhood s*xual abuse or trauma has occurred, vulnerability and emotional closeness can feel threatening. A simple disagreement can trigger intense self-protection responses, leading to explosive fights, hopelessness, resentment, emotional distance, and loneliness.
The heartbreaking reality is that both people are hurting.
Both people want connection.
Both people feel misunderstood.
And both people leave the conflict feeling defeated.
As a marriage therapist in Brevard County, Katie Ziskind helps couples identify the protective parts beneath conflict using Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), attachment-based counseling, and trauma-informed relationship therapy.
Rather than focusing on who is right or wrong, therapy helps each partner understand what pain is being activated underneath the reaction.
Couples learn how to:
❤️ Regulate emotional flooding
❤️ Reduce criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling
❤️ Build emotional safety
❤️ Develop secure attachment
❤️ Improve intimacy
Couples Therapy in Merritt Island, Melbourne, Viera, Cocoa Beach, Satellite Beach, Rockledge, Florida.