Aiki Relationship Institute

07/03/2026

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/from-me-first-to-we-first/202606/ai-advice-is-undermining-couples
This is a really useful read for anyone seeking relationship advice from their chatbot. Truthfully, some of the same things are problems in some individual therapy. If you are seeking relationship advice in individual therapy, and there is no questioning about your understanding of your partner's perspective, understand the advice you get is pretty limited.

It feels great when an AI chatbot validates your side of a conflict. But it ignores the empathy and accountability relationships actually require.

04/24/2025

The Psychology Interjurisdictional Compact (PSYPACT®) is an interstate compact designed to facilitate the practice of telepsychology and the temporary in-person, face-to-face practice of psychology across state boundaries. The PSYPACT Commission is the governing body of PSYPACT responsible for crea...

09/08/2024

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/article/2024/jun/17/dating-apps-took-over-my-life-matches-real-people
Interesting perspective on how dating apps can interfere with dating - and life. They may be useful, but we need to make sure we are in charge and not succumbing to what apps want us to do - consume more. Think about that, for most people it is the opposite of what they want from dating, a partner.

I used to remove myself from experiences in favour of chasing matches. Now I’m fulfilled by the company of real people, says freelance writer Anya Ryan

11/25/2022

I was interviewed for a podcast this week. You can watch it on youtube if you would like at this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RAbyzKcCIUM. Or you can check it out wherever you listen to podcasts. The podcast is The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi. We talk a lot about s*x, but there is some other stuff in there as well.

The lights are low. A fire smolders in the fireplace. Two wine glasses sit, half empty, on the nightstand. Your clothes lie in a heap on the floor. You reach...

08/15/2022

I have been annoyed by the "happy wife, happy life" phrase for a long time. This post reviews a study that presents empirical evidence it is wrong. The arguments go different directions than I do, but it is interesting. I say happy relationship (we know that's what is being talked about, right) comes about because of more mutuality - responsiveness to each other.

As a predictive diagnostic indicator of the health of a relationship, women’s sense of satisfaction is no better than men’s, study finds

05/31/2022

This article from the Greater Good Science Center is geared toward political conversations, but the points are useful for any difficult conversation, including in relationships.

Here are eight tips for having better conversations across our differences.

04/29/2022

I got a brief quote in a new article online. I actually gave them a lot more juicy information, but this was the part that best fit in the article.

Bad news for the "opposites attract" theory: studies show we tend to like people who are similar to us.

03/29/2022

I have a brief quote in an online article. You have to scroll pretty far to see me. There is some other good stuff in the article - and some perhaps not so good. - Dr. Mark

If some men see possessiveness, clinginess, jealousy, or demands for commitment when they are not ready, they may distance themselves.

01/25/2022

If you have questions about the effectiveness of marriage counseling, check out this video.

Many people wonder if marriage counseling really works. Some have heard horror stories about marriage therapy. The reality is good marriage counseling works,...

11/07/2021

People make a big deal about red flags when dating. Here is a list of green flags.

"Couples should ALWAYS sleep in separate rooms."