09/01/2026
PATRICIA ALENE STOUT
September 23, 1942 to August 31, 2026
Shawnee, Oklahoma
Patricia Alene Stout passed away at her home in Shawnee, Oklahoma on Monday, August 31, 2026, at the age of 83. She was born on September 23, 1942, in Chickasha, Oklahoma, the middle child of Norvin Woodrow and Harriet Louise (Pittman) Whitehead.
Pat, as she was known to most, married Bobby Gilbert Dotson on October 24, 1958, in Duncan, Oklahoma. They had 3 children, Bobby Jr., Pamela, and John. After Bobby's passing, she married Clarence Earl Stout on July 8, 1980, in Shawnee, Oklahoma.
Though she spent much of her first marriage as a Navy spouse, stationed across the country, she always found her way back to Oklahoma. She received her GED in 1973 and later owned and operated Shawnee Tax & Bookkeeping out of her home in Shawnee. She also worked as office administrator at St. John's Episcopal Church in Oklahoma City for several years.
During her first husband's illness, they found Emmanuel Episcopal Church in 1978, and it would become a refuge, guiding light, and rock for her throughout the rest of her life. In 1987, she became the Treasurer there and served in that position until her retirement in 2012. She also served there in the choir with her gentle soprano voice and on the Outreach committee. She, along with longtime friend Nancy Langley and Marla and Clinton Smith, founded the Outreach feeding programs, Breakfast on Broadway and the Sack Lunch Program, and later the Porch House Ministry. Pat was content to serve quietly in the background, gently instructing others in the proper way to make the gravy or making regular replenishment runs to the dollar store. For many years, she regularly gathered with other parishioners to make wreaths for the Veterans Day fundraiser and prayer pups for the local hospital. She was a firm believer in fostering love and leadership in the next generation and was quite excited to pass the torch on to current leader, Jeanni Pruitt.
Pat was an amazing mother, always putting her children's wellbeing first, even if it meant that she missed out on parts of their lives. She had a dry sense of humor, a sharp wit, and a no-nonsense way about her that put everyone around her at ease. She was an avid
gardener and spearheaded the annual church plant sale. Her backyard became her sanctuary in her later years, and she spent hours there tending to her flowers and vegetables or simply reading in her rocking chair. Pat was a voracious reader and was rarely without a book on her person. It was a love she passed on to her children, her grandchildren, and actively fostered in her great-grandchildren. She was a proud member of the Choctaw Nation of Oklahoma.
We will all miss her laughter, her hand-crocheted ear protectors, her silly cards, and her wild sand plum jelly. The absence of her quiet demeanor and faithful companionship will be felt deeply in her community and family.
She was preceded in death by her parents, her two husbands, and her brothers, James and Donald.
She is survived by three children, Bobby (Debbie) Dotson and Pamela Dotson of Shawnee, and John (Sherry) Dotson of Norman; three grandchildren, Tara (Matt) David and Kyle Dotson of Shawnee, and Tracy (Troy) Knight of York, Pennsylvania; and eight great grandchildren: Sebastian, Phoebe, and Aubrey Merritt of Shawnee and David, Killian, Owen, Liam, and Sean Knight of York, Pennsylvania; one sister, Virginia (Robert) Burkhead of Spokane, Washington; one brother, Clinton (Dottie) Whitehead of Duncan, numerous nieces and nephews, cousins, and friends.
Internment will be in the Emmanuel Episcopal Columbarium alongside her husband, Clarence, at a later date. In lieu of flowers, the family kindly requests that donations be made to the Emmanuel Episcopal Porch House Ministry to which Pat dedicated so much of her final years. To light a virtual candle and keep her light shining, please visit our family candle page at
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