09/13/2026
September is Su***de Prevention month.
One of the ways we can participate in su***de prevention is by becoming people that others feel safe telling the truth to.
I've worked with many people who have been hesitant to talk about suicidal thoughts with their loved ones because they're afraid of being judged, misunderstood, or becoming a burden.
And I think it's worth asking ourselves: what have we communicated about su***de in the way we talk about it? What thoughts, feelings, attitudes, or beliefs do I carry about death by su***de that could potentially create an unsafe conversation for others?
Because if someone hears a person speak about people who are suicidal with judgment, disgust, fear, or shame, they may be less likely to open up & share their own thoughts and feelings.
If someone trusts you enough to tell you that they're having thoughts of su***de, it is important to not make the moment about your shock or discomfort.
You can be concerned and show deep care. You can recognize that what they're telling you is serious and still not overreact.
Communicate "I'm glad you told me. You don't have to carry this by yourself. I'm here, and we're going to get you some support."
Being a safe person is rarely about having all of the answers or being able to fix a person's pain.
Sometimes one of the most valuable things you can offer someone is the experience of being present with them, able to hear their truth, without them becoming responsible for your reaction to their sharing.
If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call or text 988 for free, confidential crisis support. If there is immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency department.