06/18/2026
Most of us spend a lot of time in one of two places.
In our heads, led entirely by logic. Facts, reason, practicality. Emotions pushed to the side because they feel inconvenient or unreliable.
Or in our feelings, swept along by whatever is most intense in the moment. Reactive, mood-dependent, unable to access what we actually know.
Both states are human. Neither is wrong.
But there is a third place. A quieter one.
In DBT, it's called Wise Mind.
Wise Mind is where reason and emotion meet. It's the part of you that knows, not just thinks or feels, but genuinely knows. You've probably felt it before. That moment of clarity after the storm passes. The gut sense that something is right or wrong, even when you can't fully explain it.
The good news is that Wise Mind can be practiced.
A few simple ways to access it:
๐ฎโ๐จ Breathe in slowly, and silently say "wise." Breathe out, and say "mind." Repeat until you feel yourself settle.
๐ชจ Imagine you are a small stone, gently drifting to the bottom of a still, clear lake. As you reach the bottom, let your attention rest there, in your center.
๐ค When facing a decision, breathe in and ask Wise Mind a question. Breathe out and simply listen. Not for the answer you want. For the one that's already there.
You don't have to have it all figured out.
Wise Mind is already within you.