Dr. Samantha Rae • Licensed Psychologist in Orlando

07/15/2023

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Do you find yourself worrying, even obsessing, about loved ones and what they're doing or not doing? It makes sense. It's painful to see someone you care about struggling, or not living up to their potential. 🥺

For some, those painful emotions trigger "lifesaver mode," where you go all in with your time, energy, resources, and often, unsolicited advice, trying to push or pull your loved one wherever you think they "ought" to be headed.

This kind of helping isn't healthy or sustainable. Whether it's your partner, friend, family, or even a client, it's bad for everyone when you sacrifice your well-being in the interest of "help."

So what are you "supposed" to do when someone you love is suffering? Do you just stand by and watch the train wreck you anticipate is coming?

Here are few suggestions...

1. Try to accept the difficult reality of where your loved one is right now. In other words, allow it to be exactly as it is. Open your heart up and make room for their pain. Expand with it. Release the urge to change it.

2. Meet your person where they are, not where you think they could/should be. What is one thing you can do to support them here and now, without sacrificing more than you can give?

3. Remember life is always changing so there's still hope for a brighter future even when things look bleak. Holding space for your person's pain doesn't mean you have to let your hope burn out. Connect with what lights you up.

🧡dr. sam

05/18/2023

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05/14/2022

You’re a goal-getter. 🏆 You don’t stop until you achieve what you set out to do.

I love that about you. 😍

Unfortunately, most of the high achievers I know don’t give themselves the credit they deserve. As soon as they check off one accomplishment it’s onto the next. And the next. And so on.

Here’s the thing, my ambitious friend: you will feel HAPPIER when you celebrate your progress along the way.

What does this look like?

1. Pause — you can’t celebrate what you don’t notice.
2. Check-in — “what’s going well?” “how am I expressing my values?” “what’s something I’m doing that my younger self would admire?”
3. Recognize — think of ways you celebrate others, like a special dinner, flowers, a card, etc.

You’re always growing and you deserve to be celebrated for it. 🥳