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Concious Relationship Group offers individual & couples coaching and online courses for building, healthy conscious relationships.

Order Jessica's new book, SAFE, and get free powerful gifts to support your journey at jessicabaumlmhc.com/safe Founded by Jessica Baum LMHC in 2017, Be Self-full is a team of highly skilled psychotherapists who help individuals with relationship issues. We are deeply committed to helping people move from a state of loneliness and confusion to a place of safety and contentment with hope for the future. Whether you are in a relationship or single, struggling with dependency or trauma, in order to move forward, cultivating a deeper understanding of your own self is paramount. In doing deeper core work—and understanding why we find ourselves stuck in patterns and situations—we are able to form healthier relationships with ourselves and consequently, have healthier relationships with others. The core of most mental health issues centers around getting to know your truth, understanding how and why you are where you are, and then creating awareness and a deeper understanding around it. Once you connect with yourself—and only then—can you start to develop healthier relationships with yourself and those around you.

10/21/2026

A lot of times, when I post content that compares anxious and avoidant attachment, I see your comments saying that you can relate to both sides. It could be that you're actually more disorganized (sometimes called fearful-avoidant), because it often looks like both styles even in the same relationship and on the same day.

Disorganized attachment often develops when your caregivers, the people who were supposed to make you feel safe, were also sometimes unpredictable or scary. This caused your nervous system to learn two things at once:

1. I need closeness to feel safe.
2. Closeness isn't safe.

That's why you might reach for someone and then feel the urge to pull away the moment they reach back.

It's important to note, too, that your attachment patterns can shift depending on who you're with. With a partner who pulls away, you might be more anxious, find yourself chasing, and shutting down. But if you're with a partner who wants a lot of closeness, you might look more avoidant and want more space. Many people with disorganized attachment spend years thinking they're one style, when they're really responding to the dynamic in front of them.

This is why it can be important to learn the difference between the attachment patterns you have. If you've thought you're anxiously attached and only work on your anxiety, you might learn to soothe your fear of abandonment, but still feel overwhelmed when someone gets close. However, if you only work on the avoidant side, you might learn to let people in, but still panic when they need space.

To heal disorganized attachment and move to a more secure base, you have to learn that closeness and safety can exist at the same time at a pace your body can handle.

Attachment styles aren't meant to be labels, but they can help you understand what your nervous system learned so you can start teaching your body something new. With safe relationships and support, it's possible to earn security, even if you've felt pulled in two directions for a long time.

10/20/2026

Core wounds are the deep beliefs we have formed about ourselves in childhood based on how our needs were met (or weren't). They are beliefs like:

• "I'll be abandoned."
• "I'm not good enough."
• "I have to prove myself."
• "I can't trust anyone."

We don't choose these beliefs. They are formed subconsciously as a way to make sense of our experiences and how we had to stay connected to our caregivers.

Unfortunately, though, those core beliefs follow us into our adult relationships, shaping who we're attracted to, how we read a partner's actions, and what we're willing to accept from someone else. For example, your partner replying slowly to a text can feel like proof of the belief you're holding.

Some relationships will draw out your core wounds more than others, depending on your partner's own wounds and patterns. Some partners might activate your nervous system more, causing your core wounds to come out defensively. Other partners might feel safer for your nervous system, causing your core wounds to surface as an opportunity for healing.

If you want to heal your core wounds, you have to become more aware of them first. As you become aware, you can learn how to name the belief that is under your reactions and start to ask if what you're feeling is based on what's happening right now or something from your past. Over time, with safe relationships and support, you can begin to heal those core wounds and start to experience love from a place of safety instead of fear.

If you want to start understanding your core wounds now, comment "WOUNDS" and I'll DM you the link to the course I created to help.

10/15/2026

If it feels like you and your partner are constantly at odds, it might be because you're two nervous systems that never learned how to feel safe. You try to explain how you feel, and they completely shut down, or you get defensive when they reach out to you.

Regulation is your body's ability to calm itself down enough to stay present, especially when emotions get big. It's something we usually learn as children when our caregiver comforts us, helps us settle (through co-regulation), and shows us that hard feelings can pass. But if you didn't have that, your body learned to survive instead. You might have learned to reach harder or completely pull away.

When two people in survival mode (feeling unsafe and dysregulated) come together, it can be so hard to really see each other. Instead of spending time connecting, you're more focused on protecting yourselves, which doesn't leave much room to be present for one another. Your nervous systems are activated and hyperaware of any signs of abandonment, feeling smothered, or other dangers.

Thankfully, you can learn how to regulate your nervous system at any age through safe relationships with friends, a therapist, community, or even a partner who's doing the work, too. The more you learn how to soothe your body, the more room you have to see the person in front of you.

That's where intimacy and vulnerability can be built. But it starts with learning how to regulate your body, becoming aware of your patterns, and healing your core wounds.

You can start by understanding the core wounds that drive so many of your patterns. Comment "UNCOVER" and I'll DM you the link to the course I made to help.

10/14/2026

If you love someone who's anxiously attached, you might know how hard it can feel when it doesn't seem like they fully trust you. You tell them you're not going anywhere, but their fear always comes back, and your reassurance never feels like enough.

But someone with an anxious attachment can become more secure. I'm an example of this. The work they need to do to heal is for them to do, though. You can't reassure them into feeling secure, but you can be a part of what helps them feel safe along the way.

Healing takes time, but there are signs when someone is doing the work. It will happen in small moments, like noticing that they give you more space, they're honest with how they're feeling, or they can self-soothe before reaching out to you.

Sure, they will still have times when old fears come back up. That happens to everyone, but they are more likely to notice what's happening and come back to repair.

While they're doing the work, it's important for you to stay consistent by following through, sharing how you feel, and coming back after space. These are things that will help their nervous system feel safe.

And if you're the anxiously attached partner, please know that all of this is possible for you. You can get to a place where you're not constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. You got this place because you need to learn how to survive in your childhood environment. Now, you can learn security and build patterns that feel safer.

If you're ready to start building safety within, my book SAFE is a great place to begin. You can get a copy at jessicabaumlmhc.com/safe.

10/13/2026

I know how confusing this feeling is, because you know they care about you, but part of you wonders if they have the capacity to show up yet.

I've been learning this myself lately. You can understand someone's wounds, know exactly why they pull away, and have so much compassion for how hard it is for them. And they still might not be able to give you the steady relationship you really want and need. This is a painful place to be.

You can't create capacity for someone else or love them into it. You can't even really explain it to them. And waiting for it to show up is so hard. For someone to build capacity, they need to be able to look at the parts of themselves they've spent years protecting. You can't choose that for them.

But you can:
- Pay attention to what they're doing vs. saying
- Notice what shifts when you share a need
- See if they make changes over time
- Become more aware of how you feel in the relationship

I know how hard it is to wake up to the realization that someone you care deeply about can't meet you where you are right now, even when they're an incredible person. You're allowed to choose yourself here.

10/12/2026

If you're anxiously attached, reading a list like this can feel uncomfortable. Protest behaviors show up when your nervous system senses distance and starts to panic. These are learned behaviors that you've used, in different forms, for a long time to survive in the environments you grew up in.

An example of protest behaviors is when a baby cries and reaches for their caregiver after being separated from them. Their goal is to reconnect with them. As adults, we still carry that same instinct to reach out, but it comes out in ways that are more complicated.

Underneath every one of the behaviors is a fear of losing the person you're attached to, but saying that out loud often feels really vulnerable. This is especially true if it didn't feel safe to share your needs growing up. So instead of voicing your fears, your fear comes out in ways like sending one more text, going quiet, or starting a fight when what you really want is to feel close to them.

What's hard, though, is that these behaviors that come out can sometimes create the distance you're so scared of, because your partner sees your frustration, but they don't see the fear you have underneath.

I'm not going to say that these protest behaviors just go away when you start healing, but it is possible to become more aware of them and choose something different. You might feel the urge to act unbothered, but instead you could share that you're really hurt by something. When you feel the urge to slip into a protest behavior, try to pause, take a few deep breaths, and reach out to a friend who feels safe. Then, when you're ready, you can try to name what's really happening for you, like feeling disconnected from your partner.

I know it's going to feel scary at first, especially when it's new. But when you have a partner with the capacity to show up for you, telling them what you're afraid of can help them care for you.

10/08/2026

If you're anxiously attached, you know exactly what I'm talking about. You might be scrolling right now to avoid rereading their messages for a fourth time...

You can easily pick up on the slightest changes in tone and length, which means you're always looking for evidence of how they really feel about you. You might have already checked to see if they saw your story. And then when they do finally text you back warmly, you feel intense relief.

That rush of relief can feel like chemistry, but it's more often your nervous system moving out of an activated state because the alarm bells have finally stopped.

When you're anxiously attached, it feels normal to not really know where you stand in a relationship, and secretly, you might kind of like it. It feels exciting to not really know what they're thinking sometimes, and your body stays on alert, scanning for cues, so every small sign of interest feels like a reward. Relationships have always felt this way for you, so it makes sense that this would feel most comfortable.

However, comfort isn't always sustainable, because the same partner who keeps you on your toes and activates your nervous system can also be the one who sends you spiraling, leaving you locked in a push-pull cycle that becomes exhausting.

On the other side, someone who is safe and secure feels different. They will tell you how they feel about you, so you don't have to piece it together from their texts. They also make plans and follow through, and they will tell you when something feels off. The more time you spend in this relationship, the more likely your body will learn to stop scanning for warning signs and settle into safety.

The calm in this type of relationship might feel unfamiliar and different, but this is more a sign that you're finally getting to rest in a relationship. You're not standing on your toes ready to fight through chaos.

And sometimes it can be the very thing that helps you become safer and more secure, too.

10/07/2026

This board might feel impossible if you've been hurt by an avoidant partner. Especially if you waited, gave everything you had, and watched nothing change. I have been there, and it's so, so hard.

But people really can move toward security, including avoidantly attached people. It's something called "earned security," and I have seen it happen for people with anxious attachment (including me), avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment.

The part that can feel incredibly hard is that making changes and working on themselves has to be their work to do, not yours. You can't love someone into becoming more secure.

But you can start noticing and becoming more aware of the subtle changes, because growth happens in little pieces over time. There will be small moments that would have felt impossible a year ago, like a text after a hard conversation, staying close after a really good weekend, or even them saying something like, "I'm not sure how to say this, but..."

And just because they're doing the work doesn't mean they won't have moments when they pull away or struggle with some of their protective behaviors. The difference is that they can start to notice what's happening and come back.

I don't want this board to be something you keep waiting for, but to help you notice the little things that can show growth. If you're seeing some of these signs, you may be with someone who's trying to grow alongside you. But if you're not seeing any of them, especially after you've asked for what you need, it's okay to let go.

And if you're the avoidant partner reading this, please know that every square on this board is possible for you. So many of your behaviors stem from survival strategies you needed growing up to live in the environment you were in. You can still earn security, though, and learn how to build more secure patterns.

A great starting place is my book, SAFE, where I guide you through the process of building safety within yourself and in your relationships. If you comment the word SAFE, I'll DM you the link, but the link in my bio will take you there, too!

10/06/2026

This is for you if you keep falling for the same kind of partner and falling into this cycle. It can be fairly easy to understand the anxious-avoidant cycle, but incredibly hard to catch yourself in the middle of it.

The cycle seems so clean and easy on a slide like this, but in real life, it feels more like an emergency in your body. If you're anxiously attached, you might find yourself rehearsing the perfect text, checking when they were last online, or sending one more message even though you told yourself you wouldn't.

And if you're more avoidant, you might want to be alone all of a sudden, feel irritated by messages, or notice small flaws in someone you were excited about a week ago.

Your nervous system is doing what it learned to do, and it moves so much faster than your thoughts, which makes the cycle hard to catch when you're in it. You have to shift your body first.

If you're more anxiously attached and find yourself reaching out for reassurance, try pausing before you send that text message, take a few deep, slow breaths, and ask yourself what you're feeling deep down. You might notice that you're less worried about them ignoring you and more scared of being alone. Try reaching out to a friend first to see if that helps.

If you're the more avoidant partner who wants to run, try giving the space you need a name instead of just disappearing into it. You could say something like, "I need some time, but I'll come back to this tonight," which can help both of you feel safer.

My book Anxiously Attached dives into the cycle and helps you understand why both partners get to this point, while my book SAFE can help you start to build internal safety.

Both can be found in my link in bio!

10/01/2026

Are you with someone who's selling you a beautiful future, but the future never seems to come? It sounds like planning big trips together, living in new places, and building a life together.

When you're anxiously attached, those words can feel like proof that you're finally being chosen.

Your nervous system holds onto the promises they've given you, because they give you something to hope for. It fills the gap between what they say and what they do. The more uncertain the relationship feels, the more you'll hold onto the version of them they're promising will come someday.

But connection and intimacy can't be built in the future, as it relies on small, steady moments of right now, like showing up when they say they will, making plans for this weekend, and following through.

Future faking isn't always deliberate, because sometimes people really mean what they're saying in the moment. The problem is, they love the idea of intimacy, but they don't have the capacity to actually make room for it and follow through. And yes, sometimes future faking comes from making promises to keep you close to avoid real commitment.

Either way, you end up waiting for a relationship that only exists in words.

You deserve a relationship with someone who shows up when they say they will, follows through with their plans, and builds trust with you day by day.

It's okay to find that instead of waiting for a never-coming future.

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