Conscious Relationship Group

Conscious Relationship Group Concious Relationship Group offers individual & couples coaching and online courses for building, healthy conscious relationships.
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Order Jessica's new book, SAFE, and get free powerful gifts to support your journey at jessicabaumlmhc.com/safe Founded by Jessica Baum LMHC in 2017, Be Self-full is a team of highly skilled psychotherapists who help individuals with relationship issues. We are deeply committed to helping people move from a state of loneliness and confusion to a place of safety and contentment with hope for the fu

ture. Whether you are in a relationship or single, struggling with dependency or trauma, in order to move forward, cultivating a deeper understanding of your own self is paramount. In doing deeper core work—and understanding why we find ourselves stuck in patterns and situations—we are able to form healthier relationships with ourselves and consequently, have healthier relationships with others. The core of most mental health issues centers around getting to know your truth, understanding how and why you are where you are, and then creating awareness and a deeper understanding around it. Once you connect with yourself—and only then—can you start to develop healthier relationships with yourself and those around you.

This one can sting a little, but I truly want you to get curious here. So many of us, especially those who have more anx...
06/24/2026

This one can sting a little, but I truly want you to get curious here. So many of us, especially those who have more anxious attachment patterns, spend our lives trying to finally be chosen. Which means you're constantly asking, "How do I get them to choose me?"

So, you adapt by needing less, abandoning more, conforming into their world, ignoring boundaries, and giving endlessly. That's why, when you finally get out of the relationship, you wonder who you even are anymore. You've lost your sense of self from trying to do everything you can to fit into their world.

What happens, though, when you stop and ask yourself, "Why have I chosen someone who isn't choosing me?"

Your brain is always searching for familiarity, making your nervous system be drawn to relationship dynamics that resemble what you've experienced before. Unfortunately, this is why you can find yourself deeply investing in relationships that leave you feeling uncertain, unseen, or emotionally hungry.

You learned to associate longing, inconsistency, or emotional unavailability with love.

Instead of spending time judging yourself for who you've chosen, get curious about why certain dynamics feel so compelling in the first place. What are they mirroring from your past? Who do those people most feel like?

You deserve to be chosen and to be in a relationship where there is mutual love, care, consistency, and emotional safety.

IMPORTANT: Securely attached people still have moments of fear, uncertainty, insecurity, and relationship challenges. Th...
06/23/2026

IMPORTANT: Securely attached people still have moments of fear, uncertainty, insecurity, and relationship challenges. They overthink situations, get anxious, have moments of self-doubt, struggle with hard conversations, and can feel hurt and disappointed.

They experience all of these things AND they respond differently.

Before we go into that, I want to remind you, though, that attachment styles aren't personality types or fixed identities. We all move in and out of anxious, avoidant, and secure patterns depending on the relationship, our stress levels, our history, and the resources available to us in the moment.

Being securely attached gives you the ability to stay connected to yourself while navigating the inevitable challenges that come with intimacy, vulnerability, conflict, and connection within relationships.

Instead of assuming the worst, you're able to ask, "What's happening here?" And you can remain curious, even when uncertainty comes up. And the big one: You can maintain your sense of self-worth even if the other person doesn't choose you.

In fact, you stop trying to answer the question of "Will I be chosen?" and move into finding someone who's genuinely a good fit.

Some of the hardest relationship truths are often the simplest:💛 Chemistry and compatibility aren't the same thing.💛 B...
06/17/2026

Some of the hardest relationship truths are often the simplest:

💛 Chemistry and compatibility aren't the same thing.
💛 Being needed and loved aren't the same thing.
💛 Potential and reality aren't the same thing.
💛 Mystery and poor communication aren't the same thing.

There's something about finally seeing clearly what you've been taught to normalize for so, so long.

Which one do you have more questions on?

I've said it before, and I'll keep saying it: the healthiest relationships are less focused on avoiding conflict or rupt...
06/12/2026

I've said it before, and I'll keep saying it: the healthiest relationships are less focused on avoiding conflict or ruptures and more focused on ensuring that repair always happens. That is where real depth, trust, and security are formed, because mistakes, misses, disagreements, and conflict are going to happen in every relationship.

Every relationship is going to have moments of disconnection.

The thing that will always set your relationship apart is whether you're able to repair after the disconnection. And it doesn't have to be complicated. A simple, "Hey, I'm sorry I've been so busy lately. Let's get dinner tonight." Or even, "I know I said I would do that, and I totally forgot. I'm really sorry."

Repair takes awareness, accountability, authenticity, and forgiveness.

That's where healthy relationships are built. What questions do you have about building conscious, healthy relationships?

Have you recently discovered you have more anxious attachment patterns? Or maybe you've known for a while, but you're no...
06/10/2026

Have you recently discovered you have more anxious attachment patterns? Or maybe you've known for a while, but you're not sure what to do or where to turn.

My first book, Anxiously Attached, is on a flash Kindle sale, dropping it from $9.99 to just $1.99, but only until June 14th!

This book walks you through everything we've been talking about recently:

Why you're attracted to emotionally unavailable people. Why you can't stop seeking reassurance. Why you repeat the same patterns with different people. And why healing feels so much harder than staying stuck.

It gives you the why behind all of it, including the neuroscience, attachment theory, and how your nervous system works within it all. Oh, and it includes the actual tools and strategies to start rewiring your nervous system toward security.

There's validation and a roadmap. It's truly the best time to grab it.

The posts you've been reading have given you a good amount of awareness, and Anxiously Attached is the book to help you actually begin to do the work of transformation.

Inside, you'll learn:
- How your childhood shaped your attachment style
- Why you self-sabotage when things get good
- What secure attachment looks like
- Concreate tools to regulate your nervous system
- How to break the anxious-avoidant cycle
- What healing requires

If you've been on the fence, now's the time to hop over and get a copy. You've likely spent a good amount of time trying to figure out your patterns and navigate healing. Let this book meet you where you are and guide you where you want to go.

Grab your copy of Anxiously Attached on Amazon Kindle for just $1.99. Comment "DEAL" and I'll DM you the link.

It's time to start becoming more secure in life and love.

You probably don't even realize you're doing it. Your nervous system learned what love feels like through your earliest ...
06/04/2026

You probably don't even realize you're doing it. Your nervous system learned what love feels like through your earliest relationships with your caregivers. If those relationships were inconsistent, chaotic, or conditional, your nervous system learned to recognize that feeling as long.

Now, when you meet someone who is emotionally unavailable, goes hot and cold, and makes you wonder where you stand, your body lights up, and you feel that snap of chemistry.

Your nervous system is saying, "I know this feeling. It's familiar and feels like home."

But it's not actually home or safe, but the wound that's been there for a long, long time. Even though it can feel like it sometimes, activation is not the same as attraction.

The difference is that when your nervous system is activated, feeling anxious, uncertain, or chasing, it feels like you're in love, but you're actually feeling your attachment system get triggered/activated.

Whereas the person who's secure, consistent, emotionally available, and stable doesn't activate you, which makes your nervous system see them as boring instead.

The person who helps heal you won't feel like the person who wounded you, which is the entire point. Healing feels more like relief and not excitement. So, you're not going to get butterflies, but you're also not going to lose yourself in someone else.

The person who activates your wounds:
- Makes you question if they care
- Keeps you guessing
- Makes you work for their attention
- Triggers your abandonment fears
- Recreates your childhood dynamic
- Keeps you stick in the same patterns

Whereas the person who helps heal your wounds:
- Consistently shows they care
- Tells you where you stand
- Gives you attention freely and frequently
- Reassures you without needing to be asked
- Breaks the childhood pattern
- Helps you move toward security

You're attracted to what's familiar, even though what's familiar is what's hurting you. Doing the work looks like retraining your nervous system to recognize healing as long, to stay in relationships that feel calm and trust the ease that comes.

You deserve someone who doesn't make you fight for connection.

Can you see the problem here? What you need and what you're attracted to are complete opposites. This is because your ne...
06/03/2026

Can you see the problem here? What you need and what you're attracted to are complete opposites. This is because your nervous system learned early on that love looks like inconsistency and requires a lot of work (or chasing) on your part. So now, as an adult, consistency feels boring, and a partner you don't have to chase or "fix" feels all wrong.

You need someone emotionally available, but you're attracted to someone emotionally unavailable. You need clarity, but you're attracted to mystery. You need someone who follows through, but you're attracted to breadcrumbs and dead promises.

Safety requires stability, but if you're honest, you're attracted to the rollercoaster.

But that's the thing: it's all a trap. The person you're attracted to isn't someone capable of becoming or being the partner you need, but your nervous system doesn't care. It's addicted to the chase, uncertainty, and activation.

That's why you think the right, safe people are boring.

But what if I were to tell you that the right person might feel a little boring at first, because your nervous system isn't getting activated like it used to. You don't have to chase after them. They tell you where you stand, communicate clearly, and actually show up.

You just have to stay with the "boring" long enough to recognize that their calm isn't the same as disconnection. You have to witness the fact that they will show up for you over and over again, not just keep you on the hook.

The partner that is good for you will likely not feel exciting in the way your nervous system has been trained to find exciting. But what if that "excitement" has just been anxiety all along? And you've just been mistaking it for love for so long that you honestly can't tell the difference anymore?

You need someone who will make you feel safe, seen, and secure (and you deserve a partner like that, too).

Looking back, you can see it all clearly now. Your nervous system was always learning how to survive and adapt in the in...
06/02/2026

Looking back, you can see it all clearly now. Your nervous system was always learning how to survive and adapt in the inconsistent environment you grew up in.

You were responding to unpredictability, scanning for shifts in their availability, trying to figure out if you did something wrong, and constantly managing them so your house could be as calm as possible.

These anxious patterns kept you safe as a child, but as an adult, they're likely causing a good bit of harm to your relationships. You've been stuck trying to do all of the things that worked when you were small, but the environment is completely different now.

Becoming aware of and understanding these patterns and where they came from is one of the first steps to starting to change them, because you can't heal what you can't see. Now you see how you adapted to survive your upbringing and you can start teaching your nervous system something new.

Healing can start now.

If you're ready, grab a copy of my book, Anxiously Attached, to start building more security in your life and relationships. You can find it anywhere books are sold or in the link in my bio.

Anxious attachment patterns are formed early on in your body to survive in the environment you grew up in while trying t...
06/02/2026

Anxious attachment patterns are formed early on in your body to survive in the environment you grew up in while trying to stay connected to inconsistent caregivers. You likely learned/started believing that:

• Connection requires constant effort and vigilance (waiting for the shoe to drop)
• Abandonment might happen at any point (the shoe will drop)
• Your worth depends on how much you do for someone else
• Having to chase after a relationship is normal

As a child, this often looked like:

• Excessively worrying about your caregiver's safety
• Struggling to make decisions without adult validation
• Seeking constant approval and praise
• People-pleasing to keep friends
• Being hyper-aware about your caregiver's emotional state
• Jealousy and possessiveness in relationships

And now, as an adult, you text constantly, overthink everything, worry about things that might not even be real problems, make excuses for the partners that hurt you, and apologize for things that aren't even your fault. And all along, you can't seem to figure out what's wrong with you, because you can see the behaviors, but you can't make them stop either.

The thing is, your nervous system is doing exactly what it learned to do to keep you safe and connected early on in life. The best news is that you can absolutely change your attachment patterns.

You can learn to regulate your nervous system instead of relying on someone else to do it, understand the difference between what's familiar and what's healthy, and start choosing people who will show up for you consistently.

It's not an easy process, but you've technically already started by becoming more aware through seeing yourself in these memes.

If you're ready to go further, grab a copy of my book Anxiously Attached, where you'll learn the neuroscience, patterns, and tools to rewire your nervous system and become more secure in life and love.

It can be found everywhere books are sold or in the link in my bio.

I'm going to be really honest with you here: breaking the pattern and not rewarding their inconsistency is going to feel...
05/29/2026

I'm going to be really honest with you here: breaking the pattern and not rewarding their inconsistency is going to feel unbearable at first. Your brain is going to scream at you to go back, check to see what they said, and give them one more chance.

The reality is, this is a chemical withdrawal, because your body is used to getting dopamine here, and now it's not.

But when you're able to stay in that discomfort long enough, your brain will eventually stop expecting the reward. It's going to be uncomfortable, but the cravings do fade, and you'll see the breadcrumbs even more clearly.

You were just in the rotation while they figured out what they really want.

If your brain was wired to find inconsistency compelling or normal, know that you can rewire it over time. You're going to have to fight the urge to stay when you really need to walk away and start choosing people who show up consistently for you. Yes, even when that feels boring right now.

Breadcrumbs never turn into a full meal, and unfortunately, the longer you accept them, the harder it gets to leave.

You deserve so much more than that.

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