Daniel Fulton, M.A., LMFT

04/04/2020

“If there is a load, you have to bear that you can’t carry, I’m right up the road, I’ll share your load...” Such powerful words for times like these. Such a sad loss for the world of music. Rest in peace, Bill Withers.

08/29/2019

08/29/2019

Group forming now in Pasadena, CA. If you are a “dad,” this may be just the kind of safe, supportive space you need right now.

08/21/2019

If we don’t tell our partners what we want, need, and expect, how can they give that to us? Chances are, the assumptions you bring into your relationship are not going to be the same as your partner’s. Being clear in our communication helps create solid relationships, built on a shared sense of clear expectations and understanding. For some of us, we never learned how to speak up for our own needs, but learning to tolerate the vulnerability required to do so is in act of love.
Daniel Fulton, M.A.
Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT 112716)
Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC 6271)
Supervised by Margaret (Meg) Bezucha, LMFT 100194
@ Pasadena, California

08/15/2019

Love this thinking from Hallie G Therapy!

I wonder if a helpful question we could ask ourselves is, “if I push through this discomfort, will I be expanded or diminished? More myself or less?” As with most things, trauma can cloud our ability to answer, and we may need to seek helping in gaining clarity.

Would love to hear others’ thoughts.

I’ve been thinking recently about how to distinguish between the kind of discomfort that indicates damage being done and the kind that precedes growth. Is there some landmark to tell you which path you’re walking? What happens if we push through the pain that damages us? How do we heal from that? Or is it not so black and white (of course, it’s not)?
This is especially hard in relationships, I think. It’s so easy to create a story about one’s partner and put oneself in the clear. But the chances are, you’re both wrong and you’re both right. (UNCOMFORTABLE!!) Every point of conflict is an opportunity to assess whether this discomfort is the kind that’s worth it.
What beautiful little worlds, our relationships, constantly presenting these lessons...

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