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06/22/2026

One of the reasons limerence can feel so convincing is that it often creates a sense of certainty.

You feel strongly about the person.
You think about them often.
You feel a powerful pull toward the connection.

Because the feelings are so intense, it’s easy to assume they must be telling you something definitive about the relationship. But feelings and information aren’t always the same thing.

Sometimes what we’re experiencing is genuine connection,

Other times we’re relating to a possibility. To the story we’re creating about who someone is, what they mean to us, or what the future could look like.

This isn’t something to judge ourselves for. It’s totally part of being human. When we care about someone, especially in the early stages of a relationship, there will always be gaps in what we know. The question is what we do with those gaps.

Do we stay curious?
Or do we fill them with certainty?

One of the most valuable things we can do in dating and relationships is allow ourselves to move a little slower than our imagination. To let someone reveal themselves through consistency, character, and lived experience.

Because while limerence thrives on possibility, lasting connection is built through reality.

As you reflect on your own relationships, consider this:

Are you getting to know the person who is actually in front of you, or the person your mind hopes they might be?

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One of the reasons limerence can be so confusing is that the feelings themselves are real.The excitement is real.The lon...
06/18/2026

One of the reasons limerence can be so confusing is that the feelings themselves are real.

The excitement is real.
The longing is real.
The attachment is real.

So when people ask whether what they’re experiencing is “real,” I don’t think that’s usually the most helpful question.

A more useful question might be:

How much of what I’m feeling is based on who this person actually is,

and how much is based on who I imagine them to be?

When we’re excited about someone, it’s natural to fill in some of the blanks. We all do it to some degree. The challenge is that the less information we have, the more room there is for projection.

We may assume compatibility before we’ve experienced conflict.

We may feel understood before we’ve experienced vulnerability.

We may feel certain before we’ve gathered enough information to support that certainty.

Genuine connection develops differently. It grows through shared experiences, consistency, and time.

As you move through your relationships, see if you can hold onto curiosity a little longer.

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One of the challenges with limerence is that it can create the feeling of knowing someone before enough real-world exper...
06/15/2026

One of the challenges with limerence is that it can create the feeling of knowing someone before enough real-world experience exists to support that feeling.

Our minds are remarkably good at creating coherence from limited information:

A few meaningful conversations,
A shared value,
Strong chemistry,
A sense of being understood.

From there, it’s easy to begin constructing a story. Sometimes the story is accurate. But sometimes we’re relating more to possibility than reality.

I don’t say this as criticism; it’s simply something human minds do. When we’re longing for connection, we naturally look for signs that we’ve found it.

The invitation is not to distrust your feelings. Instead, it’s to remain curious about what information your feelings may be missing.

Compatibility is something we discover, that reveals itself over time. Not through imagination, but through lived experience.

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06/12/2026

If you’ve ever found yourself unable to stop thinking about someone, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve found your soulmate. Sometimes it means your brain is doing exactly what it was designed to do.

Uncertainty activates powerful reward pathways that keep us focused on the possibility of connection. Moments of closeness can deepen feelings of attachment. Together, these systems can create an experience that feels incredibly intense, even before you’ve had enough real-life experience to truly know the other person.

Understanding the neurobiology of limerence doesn’t mean you need to dismiss your feelings. Instead, it can help you understand them with more compassion.

Because when you know what’s happening beneath the surface, you can slow down, stay curious, and let connection unfold through reality instead of imagination.

One distinction I keep coming back to:

Limerence thrives on possibility. Love grows through reality.
Have you ever noticed that the uncertainty itself made someone even harder to stop thinking about?

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One of the hallmarks of limerence is that the relationship can begin to feel emotionally significant before there has be...
06/10/2026

One of the hallmarks of limerence is that the relationship can begin to feel emotionally significant before there has been enough shared experience to support that level of certainty.

You might find yourself thinking about the person frequently:

Replaying interactions.

Imagining future conversations.

Wondering what they think of you.

Looking for clues about where things are headed.

None of this automatically means you’re experiencing limerence, but when the imagined relationship starts occupying more emotional space than the actual relationship – it’s worth becoming curious.

What information do I have?

What information am I filling in?

The goal isn’t to shut down excitement or attraction – those experiences are part of being human. The goal is to notice when possibility begins speaking louder than reality.

Because healthy connection needs room for both.

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06/08/2026

Limerence is having a moment on social media right now – but not every crush is limerence. Not every strong attraction is limerence. Not every exciting new connection is limerence.

At its core, limerence is more than attraction. It’s an intense preoccupation with another person, often fueled by uncertainty, longing, and the possibility of what could be.

Here’s one distinction I find helpful:

A crush leaves room for curiosity.

Limerence often creates certainty before there is enough information to support it.

This month, I’ll be exploring limerence through the lenses of attachment, neurobiology, and relationship patterns, including the question so many people are asking:

How do you know if what you’re feeling is limerence... or genuine connection?

Have you ever wondered whether what you were feeling was limerence or genuine connection? What questions do you have about limerence? I’ll be addressing them throughout the month.

Many people think dating patterns are only revealed by who they’re attracted to — but they’re also revealed by what they...
06/03/2026

Many people think dating patterns are only revealed by who they’re attracted to — but they’re also revealed by what they’re willing to tolerate. Sometimes these aren’t the obvious red flags, but the smaller moments where you notice discomfort and then immediately talk yourself out of it.

Maybe someone is inconsistent, but you convince yourself it’s not a big deal.

Maybe you feel confused after interactions, but you tell yourself you’re expecting too much.

Maybe your needs aren’t being met, but you keep focusing on their potential instead of their behavior.

These responses don’t happen because you’re weak or naïve; they usually make sense in the context of your history. Many people learned early that maintaining connection required flexibility, patience, caretaking, or minimizing their own needs. Those strategies often helped them survive important relationships.

The problem is that what once protected you can sometimes obscure important information in dating.

The goal isn’t to become hypervigilant, but to become more honest with yourself about what you’re experiencing.

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One of the things I pay attention to in my work with clients is whether their relationships allow them to show up authen...
06/01/2026

One of the things I pay attention to in my work with clients is whether their relationships allow them to show up authentically.

Can they express their thoughts?
Can they share their needs?
Can they set boundaries?
Can they disagree without fearing abandonment?
Can they bring their whole selves into the relationship?

Healthy relationships are rarely perfect. They involve misunderstandings, ruptures, and moments of disconnection.

What makes them healthy is the willingness to create space for each person’s humanity.

As Pride Month begins, it’s worth remembering that relationships thrive when people don’t have to shrink themselves to maintain connection. 🌈

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Looking for support in Los Angeles or California? Feel free to reach out!

📞Phone: (626) 702 - 3485
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05/29/2026

People often judge themselves harshly for feeling deeply disappointed by a relationship that was still very new – especially in early dating.

They think:

“Why am I this affected?”
“We barely knew each other.”
“It shouldn’t hurt this much.”

But emotional investment isn’t measured only by time. It’s also shaped by meaning, hope, imagination, attachment activation, and what the connection represented psychologically.

Very early relationships often contain a surprising amount of projection and possibility. The mind starts building a future before the relationship has fully formed, and when the connection shifts or ends, those imagined possibilities disappear too.

That loss can feel profound, even if the relationship itself was brief.

Understanding this can help soften some of the shame people feel around dating disappointment. Because often, the pain is not only about losing the person – it’s about losing what the connection came to symbolize emotionally.

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One of the hardest parts of dating is that emotions often attach themselves not only to what happened, but to what the e...
05/27/2026

One of the hardest parts of dating is that emotions often attach themselves not only to what happened, but to what the experience seems to mean.

A delayed response can become: “They’re losing interest.”

A canceled plan can become: “I’m not important.”

A subtle shift in tone can become: “This relationship is changing.”

These interpretations happen automatically for many people. The mind is constantly trying to create coherence and predict emotional outcomes – and when attachment, vulnerability, or uncertainty are involved, meaning-making tends to intensify.

This is also why reactions can feel larger than the situation itself. The emotional response is often connected not just to the present moment, but to older fears, past experiences, and relational patterns that become activated underneath it.

Understanding this does not make your feelings invalid. It simply helps create more awareness around what exactly you are reacting to.

Sometimes the most important question is not: “What happened?”

But: “What meaning did I attach to what happened?”

That distinction can create a little more room for clarity, regulation, and self-understanding.

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