10/17/2022
Sometimes we look in all the wrong places for change when the power to initiate the change we want to see in our children is at the tip of the tongue 👅.
No, but really many solutions can be in our language! How we say things! And what we decide to say…
Of course I know my kids are freaking phenomenal and no one can convince me other wise, ☝🏾 but I am not without my fears and anxieties as a parent. I get scared of what these smaller slip ups in behaviors or naive choices might mean for their future. It normal for parents to have these kinds of thoughts and fears.
If we aren’t careful, those fears can leak into our child’s identity if we aren’t intentional about how we speak to them during such a fertile stage of development.
Let me provide you with an example to better explain:
Sky, a 6 year old, is constantly getting poor behavior reports from their Kindergarten teacher. Sky isn’t listening or following instructions in class.
As the parent, you can address each behavior to understand additional context by having a conversation with Sky. Teach sky what behaviors they should have done instead and help Sky problem solve any missteps or misunderstandings. Affirm Sky with “I know you are an excellent listen. You know how to listen (insert a time you can recall that they did a great job listening). I believe you can show better listening skills in class, and I can’t wait to hear about how things go tomorrow.
These are not blanket solutions, but rather small manageable templates on what you CAN say.
In the comments, Share an affirmation that stuck with you growing up 🌱
