Sandra Clem Counseling Services

10/18/2026

Parents of teen girls this is so good

10/18/2026

Excellent advice

10/17/2026

So true

10/17/2026

Children can have conflicting feelings and needs at the same time.

They can want independence while still needing support. They can enjoy being with friends and still need time alone. They can want to talk about their feelings but struggle to find the words.

These aren't contradictions. They're part of being human.

When we recognise that two things can be true, we can respond with more understanding and give children the support they need.

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10/17/2026

I use the Gottman method in my counseling because it is so thoughtful, practical and promotes healing.

10/17/2026

Children don't always say, "I want to spend time with you."

Sometimes it's the tenth time they've asked you to watch them jump, a story you've already heard, or something small they're excited to show you.

These everyday moments are opportunities for connection. When we stop, show interest and share in their excitement, we're letting them know that what matters to them matters to us.

You don't have to drop everything every time. Sometimes a simple "Show me, I'd love to see" is enough. And when you're busy, you can say, "I want to see. Give me a minute to finish this, then you can show me."

It's not about being available every second. It's about helping children feel that their bids for connection matter.

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10/13/2026

10/12/2026

So spot on!

10/09/2026

10/09/2026

“How was school?” can be a surprisingly big question.

To answer it, a child has to sort through hours of experiences, decide what is important, find the words and organise it into an answer.

If you usually get “I don’t know”, “fine” or a shrug, try making the question smaller and more concrete.

Specific questions can reduce the thinking load and give your child an easier place to start.

And sometimes, once they start talking, the rest comes.

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