Dr. R. Scott Gornto

Dr. R. Scott Gornto PHD, MDIV, LMFT, CST, EMDR | Psychotherapist | Speaker | Performance/Executive Coach | Founder/Owner Dr. R.

Scott Gornto (Dr. G), PHD, MDIV, LMFT, EMDR holds a PHD in Individual, Marriage & Family Therapy. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a EMDR Trained Trauma Therapist and Relationship Expert. Since 1999, Dr. Gornto has worked with individuals, couples/marriages, adolescents (12 yrs old and up), families, groups, churches, executives and leaders. During that time, he has seen over 35,000

hours of individual, couple/marriage, family and group therapy. His areas of specialization include: Addiction (chemical, behavioral), Anger managment, Anxiety/Depression, Betrayal/Infidelity Repair, Boundaries/Codependency, Communication/Conflict Resolution, Couples Therapy, EMDR for Trauma/PTSD and Parenting & Blended Family. He offers one-hour sessions as well as intensives for individuals and couples. He is the author of The Stories We Tell Ourselves™ and is a columnist for the Huffington Post and Psychology Today.

Neuroscience tells us……our brains are wired to seek purpose and meaning.
08/19/2026

Neuroscience tells us…

…our brains are wired to seek purpose and meaning.




The older I get, the more I realize…..the importance of living thoughtfully, rather than reactively. Keep becoming the p...
08/18/2026

The older I get, the more I realize…
..the importance of living thoughtfully, rather than reactively. Keep becoming the person God is shaping you to be. Choose integrity, compassion, humility, and purpose.

You don’t have to control the story other people tell about you.

You are responsible for the life you choose to live.




On Relationships: Over time, chronically dysfunctional dynamics can cause you to spend so much energy explaining yoursel...
08/17/2026

On Relationships:

Over time, chronically dysfunctional dynamics can cause you to spend so much energy explaining yourself, defending yourself, preventing the next conflict, or trying to restore peace that you gradually lose connection with your own reality.

Healthy relationships aren’t relationships without conflict.

They’re relationships where two people can remain two people...honest, accountable, emotionally regulated, respectful, and interested in solving problems together rather than controlling each other.




Neuroscience tells us...Your brain is a meaning-making machine.It doesn’t just observe reality.It interprets it.Before b...
08/12/2026

Neuroscience tells us...

Your brain is a meaning-making machine.

It doesn’t just observe reality.

It interprets it.

Before believing your thoughts, ask:

Is this a fact or a story?
What evidence supports this?
What evidence challenges it?
Am I filling in missing information?
Is anxiety writing the narrative?
Is there another explanation?



The older I get, the more I realize…..the truth has a way of rising to the surface over time.
08/11/2026

The older I get, the more I realize…
..the truth has a way of rising to the surface over time.




On Relationships: What Looks Like “The Problem” Usually Isn’t the ProblemCriticism can trigger old attachment wounds.Wit...
08/10/2026

On Relationships: What Looks Like “The Problem” Usually Isn’t the Problem

Criticism can trigger old attachment wounds.
Withdrawal may feel protective, but it often deepens disconnection.
External validation cannot permanently stabilize self-worth.
Big decisions can become distractions from deeper relational pain.
Boundaries are healthier than avoidance.
Guilt can be useful if it leads to ownership, not self-condemnation.
Intimacy requires vulnerability, not defensive walls.
Healthy couples address the cycle, not just the latest argument.
Fix the pattern underneath the problem.




Message from a therapist: Stay in Your Hula Hoop• Know what is yours to control.• Stop managing everyone else’s emotions...
08/07/2026

Message from a therapist:
Stay in Your Hula Hoop
• Know what is yours to control.
• Stop managing everyone else’s emotions.
• Regulate yourself before you react.
• Accept reality instead of fighting it.
• Protect the habits that protect your health.
• Use boundaries without becoming cold.
• Offer compassion without absorbing distress.
• Let other people own their feelings.
• Let your values guide your behavior.




EMOTIONAL MATURITY looks like……tolerating uncertainty.• Not every situation needs an immediate answer.• Not every confli...
08/06/2026

EMOTIONAL MATURITY looks like…
…tolerating uncertainty.
• Not every situation needs an immediate answer.
• Not every conflict needs a villain.
• Not every emotion needs an action.
• Not every disagreement needs a winner.
• Slow down before deciding what something means.
• Gather information before creating a story.
• Hold two truths at the same time.
• Stay curious when certainty feels easier.
• Be willing to say, “I don’t know yet."
• Let reality unfold before forcing a conclusion.




The older I get, the more I realize...• You cannot heal someone else’s trauma for them.• Love does not require overfunct...
08/04/2026

The older I get, the more I realize...

• You cannot heal someone else’s trauma for them.
• Love does not require overfunctioning.
• Caregiving without limits becomes depletion.
• Boundaries are not abandonment.
• Compassion does not mean self-erasure.
• You can love someone and still say no.
• You can stay connected without carrying everything.
• Healthy love knows where you end and another person begins.




Message from a therapist: Many of our adult struggles are actually childhood survival strategies.• You may struggle to t...
07/31/2026

Message from a therapist:

Many of our adult struggles are actually childhood survival strategies.

• You may struggle to trust yourself, set boundaries, or stop trying to earn love.
• Your nervous system often chooses what’s familiar over what’s healthy because familiar once felt safe.
• These patterns aren’t signs that you’re broken—they’re adaptations that helped you survive.
• Healing begins when you stop living from survival and start living from your authentic self.




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