Dr. R. Scott Gornto

06/19/2026

06/15/2026

On relationships:
• Avoid parenting your partner.
• Mothering breeds resentment.
• Parent-child roles kill intimacy.
• Intimacy needs two adults, not a parent and child.
• Be partners, not caretakers.
• Equality fosters connection.

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06/12/2026

🎙️NEW EPISODE RELEASE!
Episode 4 of "The Stories We Tell Ourselves" podcast is now out!

In this episode, I expand on several recent social media posts that resonated with listeners and clients.
What does it mean to hold our convictions with both confidence and humility? How can we prioritize connection over the need to convince others that we're right? I discuss the importance of maintaining relationships even when perspectives differ.

I also take a closer look at anxiety, reframing it not always as something to eliminate, but sometimes as an important signal that we're living outside of our values. When we listen to that inner alarm, it can guide us back toward greater alignment and authenticity.

I also explore congruence and integration, accepting all parts of ourselves, including the aspects we'd rather avoid, so that we can live more fully as who we truly are.

Finally, I unpack anger as a healthy, secondary emotion, inviting us to look beneath it to the sadness, hurt, grief, or pain that often lies underneath.

You can listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Dr. Scott

Mental Health Podcast · Updated Monthly · Conversations on relationships and mental health

06/11/2026

EMOTIONAL MATURITY looks like…
• Tolerating discomfort instead of escaping it.
• Accepting reality instead of fighting it.
• Owning your behavior instead of blaming others.
• Integrating your shadow instead of projecting it.
• Living by your values, not your moods.
• Holding uncertainty without needing immediate answers.
• Choosing growth over comfort.

06/10/2026

Neuroscience tells us:
• Want more energy? Get sunlight within 30–60 minutes of waking. ☀️
• Morning sunlight activates your Cortisol Awakening Response (CAR). ☀️
• This helps wake up your brain and body naturally.
• It suppresses melatonin and supports better sleep later that night.
• It improves alertness, mood, and stress regulation.
• It supports a healthy immune system.
• Wait to check your phone.
• Wait to drink your coffee.
• Get 5–10 minutes on sunny days.
• Get 15–20 minutes on cloudy days.
• Before screens. Before caffeine. Get sunlight.

06/08/2026

On relationships:
• Increase your self-awareness—combine it with healthy self-critique.
• Own your part—reflect and grow.
• Or avoid it—stay a victim, deflect, blame.
• Avoidance breeds defensiveness and disconnection.
• Ownership is growth; avoidance is stagnation.

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06/03/2026

Neuroscience tells us:
• Addiction narrows your focus, making you fixate on getting that chemical hit.
• This progressive narrowing blinds you to everything healthy and important beyond the addiction.
• You end up chasing or escaping feelings instead of experiencing them.
• The key is to come back to the present and let feelings flow through you.
• By processing feelings in a healthy way, you prevent them from taking over.
• That’s how you move toward a more grounded, peaceful state.

06/02/2026

The older I get, the more I realize...
• Grief takes us back through the history of our loss.
• Regrets often surface alongside grief.
• Grief work focuses on honoring the loss itself.
• When regrets pop up, write them down separately.
• Give grief and regrets their own space—they overlap, but they’re different.
• Processing them separately leads to healthier healing.

06/01/2026

On relationships:
• Resentment is natural—we all feel it at some point.
• Get it out of your head—write it down to see it clearly.
• Doing resentment work helps you separate and name each of your resentments.
• Anger lives inside resentment, but they’re not the same.
• Anger has a lesson—it highlights something you didn’t get.
• Learn from the anger, then work on releasing the resentment.

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