Matthew Buryta, MSCP, LLMFT, CADC

08/06/2026

06/18/2026

One of the most revealing things about people isn’t what they say they care about. It’s what they repeatedly make room for.

Time has a way of exposing what truly matters to us. We protect it, rearrange it, sacrifice for it, and return to it without always realizing we’re doing it. That doesn’t mean every minute has to be productive or perfectly spent. Life is messy, priorities change, and responsibilities compete for our attention. But over weeks, months, and years, patterns begin to emerge.

It can be a helpful reminder to occasionally step back and ask yourself whether the life you’re building reflects the things you say are most important to you. If the answer is yes, keep going. If the answer is no, the good news is that priorities aren’t just discovered. They’re lived, one decision at a time.

06/18/2026

💜 True for some, unfortunately not for me, my mother knew what she was doing. 💜

06/16/2026

06/03/2026

If you want to live a life dedicated to growth, connection, presence, and the acquisition of wisdom instead of things, these two facets are key.

First, you have to learn how to be present to your own feelings when navigating pain, hardship, discomfort, and the inevitable lows that are part of the human experience.

In learning how to stay present with your own experience, you can allow yourself to feel your feelings and process that experience. When we don't stay attuned to our own bodies and allow the pain to move through us, it stays stored within us a self-protective shield that keeps everything out — including the goodness, warmth, and depth of connection we need to grow.

It also keeps the pain inside, where the echoes of pain show up as shadows in the most important relationships and areas of life.

Learning to let pain move through you helps you learn the lessons and honor your experience without staying stuck.

Second, begin to embrace the idea that most things that happen to you aren't really about you.
Most of what other people do is about their fears, wounds, stress, limitations, assumptions, projections, and circumstances— not about you or your worth.

When you can really begin to internalize this, it's easier to meet difficult moments with curiosity instead of defensiveness, and to keep trying when one arena, relationship, or situation doesn't meet you where you need to be met.
Much of life isn't as personal as we think it is.

If you're working on these two things, my new book "The Wisdom of Feeling" comes out June 16th!
Deepen your self awareness, start practicing emotional self management skills, and become more attuned to the energy of your environment and how you contribute to a climate of emotional safety.

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/767885/the-wisdom-of-feeling-by-genny-rumancik/

And remember, if you order before June 15th and upload your receipt at the link below, you can receive my guide for connecting to your grounded Self for free. Use it when you're feeling reactive, disconnected, or when you're about to make a big decision!

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06/03/2026

One of the more painful realizations in healing is understanding that being “loved” is not always the same thing as being cared for well. Some people love your loyalty, your patience, your understanding, your ability to stay, forgive, and tolerate more than you should.

Real love does not continuously ask you to betray yourself in order to keep the connection. It does not depend on your silence, your overfunctioning, or your willingness to carry emotional weight that belongs to two people.

Growth changes the way you experience relationships because you stop confusing emotional endurance with love.