04/04/2026
I saw someone in the comments say "I feel like I'm constantly apologizing just for existing" and honestly that hit me so hard because I remember that feeling exactly.
Something shifted in me when I stopped saying sorry for being sick.
I used to apologize for everything. Sorry I can't come tonight. Sorry I'm so tired. Sorry I'm not fun right now. Sorry I forgot what I was just saying. I was constantly explaining myself like I owed everyone a reason for why my body was falling apart.
At some point I realized I was spending more energy managing other people's reactions to my illness than actually getting better.
You don't owe anyone a detailed explanation for why you need to rest. You don't need to apologize for something you didn't choose. The people who truly love you don't need the apology.