Agape Praxis Consulting

10/01/2026

Anger is an emotion. And remember, we need to feel it in order to heal.

If we continually push anger down, rush past it, or tell ourselves we shouldn't feel it, we may never get curious about what our heart is actually trying to communicate. And unfelt anger can manifest in other ways.... physically (headaches, surge of energy, grinding teeth, feeling hot, clenched fists, etc) or emotionally (we blow up on others). Because underneath anger, there are our tender emotions. Sad, scared, lonely. Sometimes anger is simply the emotion we can access before we're ready to touch what's tender underneath it. So yes, it is important to make space for us to feel anger.

But my rules on how we express it is:

Our anger doesn't get to hurt us, and it doesn't get to hurt someone else.

Not verbally.
Not mentally.
Not physically.

Feeling anger and directing anger at another person are two very different things. Your anger belongs to you. Even when it feels like, "You made me angry." Even when another person's behavior triggered it. Even when there is a very real situation happening outside of you. The emotion arising inside of you is still your emotion. Your heart. Your experience. And instead of handing that anger to someone else—or turning it against yourself—you can pause and be with it....to feel it. Let it move through you without using it as a weapon. And when the intensity (90 seconds for an emotion to last when it's fully felt), when it begins to soften, perhaps ask:

What's underneath my anger? Do I feel scared? Do I feel lonely? Do I feel sad because I felt so wronged? That's often where tenderness begins. We don't become tender-hearted by refusing to feel the emotions that don't look tender. Sometimes we have to compassionately meet the anger first. Feel it. Don't weaponize it. Then listen for the heart underneath it. ♥️ Hopefully this makes sense! If not, you're welcome to reach out to me! 🙌

09/26/2026

It's so empowering to learn you can change the pain of the past....even deep in childhood. Feeling pain and receiving comfort CAN still happen even it it was from decades ago all thanks to the power of the brain!! It's a wild and fun process when you learn how to be with you in past moments of pain at 8 years old or 5 or maybe when you were 10 feeling alone and scared. The part of you doesn't have to feel that way anymore (and that part of you always will until you go back and heal). It's a wonderful journey of learning about the needs of your heart....your little self....those places of emotional abandonment where we experience being stunted (emotionally/developmentally). If you have any questions you're welcome to DM me! Or email me at [email protected]

07/16/2026

The same behavior can come from two completely different places.

You can wake up early because you're afraid of falling behind. Or you can wake up early because you genuinely enjoy caring for the life you've been given.

You can serve others because you're afraid they'll reject you if you don't. Or you can serve because love naturally overflows from a full heart.

You can work hard because you're trying to prove your worth. Or you can work hard because you genuinely enjoy what you do and you want to do it well.

From the outside, the behaviors may look identical. But internally, they couldn't be more different.

One is fueled by fear.

The other is fueled by peace, joy, love, and delight.

One feels rushed, pressured, and exhausting—as if you're constantly trying to outrun the fear of not being enough or rejection or getting it wrong.

The other feels grounded.

There is intention.

There is freedom.

There is joy.

Healing doesn't always change what we do.

Often, it transforms why we do it.

The goal isn't simply to become a different person.

It's to heal so we can be free enough to live from your true self instead of from your wounds.

Same person. Different energy.

One is triggered.

The other is operating from their true self. Have you ever noticed yourself doing the right thing—but noticed anxiety, feeling rushed, or pressured? That's a triggered state hitting on an old childhood wound. Once that is healed, you naturally operate from your true self. No behavioral modification, no cognitive restructuring, no coping skills.....just completely rewiring your internal emotional operating system.

I can help show you the way to healing. DM me or email me at [email protected]

07/15/2026

An emotional wound is invisible.

You can't see it the way you see a broken arm or a bruise.

In fact, many people don't even know they have one.

We don't always realize how deeply we've been wounded until life brushes up against that wound.

Sometimes it looks like anxiety.

Sometimes it looks like feeling overwhelmed by something that seems "small."

Sometimes it's frustration that seems to come out of nowhere.

Sometimes it's anger.

Sometimes it's shutting down, withdrawing, people-pleasing, or feeling stuck.

The reaction isn't the wound.

It's the evidence that something deeper has been touched.

The same is true for the people around us.

We don't know what wounds they're carrying, what they've survived, or what beliefs they've had to build just to cope.

That doesn't mean we're responsible for their healing.

But it does invite us to respond with compassion instead of condemnation.

Healing isn't about becoming someone who never feels frustrated, anxious, or angry.

It's about becoming curious enough to ask:

"What inside of me just got touched?"

Because when we stop fighting the reaction and begin tending to the wound beneath it, that's where lasting transformation begins.

05/28/2026