Individual & Relationship Counseling Associates

08/27/2026

This is it! It's about repair. It's not about always knowing what to say, but about a willingness to come along side a partner in pain...even when you're carrying your own hurt.

08/26/2026

Intent vs Impact

08/23/2026

In EFT, the type of therapy my colleagues and I do, emotions are PRIVILEGED, not pathologized.
We help people access the most important coping & healing resource available: safe OTHERS.

In this episode with Dr. Nancy McWilliams, she shares how we have l...

08/16/2026

When a partner shuts down during conflict, it’s usually not because they don't care—it’s because the moment feels overwhelming, and withdrawal feels like the only way to protect the connection. Of course, this is exceptionally hard on the other partner, who is often left feeling unheard—as if what they're trying to say doesn't matter, or even like they don't matter.

Most distressd couples fall into this exact patterns: one gets louder trying to be reached, while the other goes quiet to stay safe. Change happens when a couple experience responding to one another in a way that creates a secure space where the risk of opening up finally feels worth taking!
Fostering this kind of safety is a primary goal of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, EFT.

Have you experienced this?

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08/15/2026

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08/07/2026

It's usually not a blowout. Instead it's the long, slow leak that leaves a relationship flat and grounded 🚲 . The right kind of change can help get things rolling again! 🚴

Pioneering relationship expert, Dr. Sue Johnson talked about accessibility, responsiveness and emotional engagement as the way back to one another...one little interaction at a time.

You hear about relationships falling apart, and the downfall is usu...

06/26/2026

Ever feel like you’re stuck on a relationship merry-go-round? One partner pushes harder to be heard, while the other pulls back to keep the peace. This is one of the most common patterns couples fall into, but understanding the loop is the first step to breaking it.

What patterns have you noticed in your own relationship?

06/13/2026

I wanted to share this quick video that addresses a really common misconception about couples' therapy.

A lot of people think it’s about getting a quick list of tips and tricks, or advice, but effective, skilled couples' work goes so much deeper than that! It’s really about addressing the underlying fear, the hurt, and that deep-rooted need for connection we all have. I'd love to hear your thoughts.

This video challenges the common misconception of what true couples...