06/04/2026
I routinely use the analogy of a dance. In a dance, each partner is responsible for their steps and how they show up on the dance floor. Sometimes the two partners are in sync with each other and the dance is flawless. But other times, they are completely out of sync and the dance looks and feels off.
If you feel out of sync and want to change the dance, you have to be willing to change your steps. Why? Because it will change the entire dance. For both of you. By focusing on yourself and making some positive changes in you, you can shift the dynamics of your entire relationship – even without your spouse committed (yet) to counseling.