07/06/2026
Hawaii has given me more than beautiful views.
It has given me time.
Time that somehow always felt impossible to find back home.
Jesse and I have been watching movies, talking about life, laughing over old memories, and just enjoying each other’s company. There was no agenda, no rush, no feeling that I needed to be somewhere else.
And somewhere in those quiet moments, I realized something…
This is what really matters.
Before we came, Jesse was excited because an old friend lives here. He talked about seeing him, smiled as he remembered the good times they shared, and hoped they would get to spend time together.
But the call never came, or a response when we text.
I was so upset but, It wasn’t anger I felt.
It was sadness.
Because it reminded me how easy it is for life to move forward for everyone else while someone living with Friedreich’s ataxia slowly becomes forgotten—not because people stop caring, but because life gets busy.
The truth is, I’ve been guilty of that too.
I’ve spent so much time taking care of Jesse that I’ve forgotten to simply spend time with Jesse.
This trip reminded me that the greatest gift we can give someone isn’t fixing their problems or finding the perfect words.
It’s making them feel remembered.
It’s showing up.
It’s sitting through a movie you’ve seen ten times.
It’s talking long after the conversation should have ended.
It’s reminding someone that even though their world has changed, they still have a place in yours.
Friedreich’s ataxia takes so much.
Let’s not let it take friendships too.
Because one day, none of us will wish we had worked one more hour or finished one more chore.
We’ll wish we had answered the phone.
Made the visit.
Watched one more movie.
Stayed a little longer.
Sometimes the greatest act of love is simply refusing to let someone feel forgotten.