10/23/2026
Reaching out to a loved one about their eating disorder can be incredibly challenging.
Dianne Neumark-Sztainer, PhD, a leading researcher in the field of eating disorders, recommends the following considerations when approaching a loved one with concerns:
1. Prepare for the conversation
Increase your knowledge base about eating disorders (see resources we recommend through the link in bio).
2. Define your goal
Do you hope to open communication? Encourage them to seek treatment?
3. Choose a time and place
Picking a safe environment may help limit their defensiveness or distress.
4. Share what you have observed
Use “I” statements and stick to the facts of what you’ve witnessed.
5. Remain calm and patient
It is possible they will feel upset. Keep that first conversation short if it begins to develop into an argument.
6. Offer resources for professional help
If your loved one is a child or teen, you may insist on seeking professional help even if they oppose it. If they are an adult, show your support and offer to help them contact a professional for an evaluation.
You are not alone. If you suspect that you or a loved one may have an eating disorder, visit our website (link in bio) or call (585) 641-0281.