Kami Orange Boundary Coach

Kami Orange Boundary Coach Boundary Coach & Author of SAY THE THING
Fat, Queer, Autistic, Plant Parent🌵 Kami Orange, Boundary Coach. Fat, Queer, Autistic, Plant Parent.

07/07/2026

Stitch with Joseph Kibler.
Happy Disability Pride Month!

What do you say if people are trying to “help” you but it’s not actually helpful?

Here are three boundary phrases for mobility aid users:

1: It is actually safer if I get myself up.

2: Even though it looks difficult to you, it’s actually how I need to do this.

3: Just because it might take me a little longer doesn’t mean I don’t want to do it.

I’m sharing lots of disability related boundary phrases this month so come follow along!

There’s also a whole disability chapter in my book Say The Thing. Published by Hay House, the book is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback.

Visual Description Written by Kami:
Kami is laying in bed holding the camera up above her. She is a fat white woman with short sandy hair and a white tank top.

Next Joseph standing with his red crutches on his arms. He is a thin white man with short dark brown hair and black frame glasses.

Then Joseph in a wheelchair with a bag of laundry on his lap. He is turned sideways to speak to the camera and the angle highlights the yellow spokes on his chair.

Finally Kami again still laying in bed. The pillows are orange and the lamp is on her right side casting a shadow across her face.

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07/06/2026

I was raised on Hay House books and now I’m a published Hay House author!

My boundary book Say The Thing is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback.

Visual Description Written by Kami:
Kami is facing the camera speaking lots of enthusiastic hand gestures while holding a paperback copy of an orange and white book. She is a fat white woman with short sandy hair wearing a pink tank top. Behind her is a bookshelf of plants with the grow lights on. At one point she brings the paperback close to the camera to show the tiny house icon on the spine of the book.

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07/03/2026

Stitch with Joseph Kibler. Happy Disability Pride Month!

It’s not okay for someone to push you in your wheelchair without asking first. I love Joseph’s take on this:

“How would you like it if I moved your legs around without asking you, huh? I could move you around like a little action figure but that wouldn’t be very cool, would it?”

If you aren’t a wheelchair user, it might surprise you how often people who are walking try to physically move or push people in wheelchairs around.

Sometimes the intention is to help but sometimes it’s because the walking person views the wheelchair user as an obstacle.

I’m sharing lots of disability related boundary phrases this month so come follow along!

There’s also a whole disability chapter in my book Say The Thing. Published by Hay House, the book is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback.

Visual Description Written by Kami:
Kami is speaking close to the camera. She is a fat white woman with short sandy hair and rosy cheeks. Then it switches to Joseph who spins around dramatically in his wheelchair to face the camera. He is a thin white man with short dark brown hair and black frame glasses. Joseph uses his hands to demonstrate how he would move someone’s legs like a tiny action figure while speaking emphatically to the camera.

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07/02/2026

I want to listen to you share this but unfortunately I’m not in a good headspace for this topic right now. Can we talk about it tomorrow?

This is a boundary phrase I use when I care about the person and usually would listen to them but can’t for whatever reason in that moment.

Kind reasonable people are okay with waiting.

If what they need to say is more urgent than I had realized, they will share that. Then we can find another option together like sending a voice memo now and then scheduling a time to talk it out later.

For more boundary phrases, I wrote a whole book of them titled SAY THE THING. Published by Hay House, the book is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback.

Visual Description Written by Kami:
Kami is sitting outside on the ground leaning up against a brown wooden fence while making direct eye contact with the camera. She is a fat white woman with short sandy hair, soft eyes, and wearing blue denim overalls with a white lace bralette underneath.

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07/01/2026

Stop saying you’re bad at boundaries!

Say you’re new to boundaries.

Say you’re learning boundary setting.

Say you’re practicing keeping boundaries.

If you want boundary help, I wrote a whole book called Say The Thing! Published by Hay House, the book is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback.

Visual Description Written by Kami:
Kami is facing the camera speaking with emphasis and emotion. She is a fat white woman with short sandy hair wearing an orange tank top. Behind her is a bookshelf of plants with the grow lights on.

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06/30/2026

How to reply when they ask when you’re having kids?

“That’s not a topic I like talking about but speaking of…[subject change question]?”

Sometimes people are asking the “when are you having a baby?” question out of love. They love you and want more of you to love also known as a child.

Sometimes people are asking because they are nosy. They care about satisfying their curiosity more than how you might feel about that inquiry.

To me, a solid “I’m not discussing that but I did want to ask you about total subject change?” works well for both of those scenarios. Plus it moves the conversation forward so it’s not awkward.

I have a whole section on this topic in my boundary phrase book Say The Thing. Published by Hay House, the book is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold in English and Polish languages.

Visual Description Written by Kami:
Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair wearing an orange tank top. She is sitting on a brown fake leather couch with dark red window curtains behind her. The conversation is happening with the Aunt Martha character off screen until the end when Kami faces the camera directly to speak to the audience.

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06/29/2026

My audiobook is read by the author so I could do all the silly voices!

It was so fun to sit in the sound booth working with the audio engineer on my audiobook. He told me afterwards, “You read that really fast and smooth! We finished in half the time!”

Yes. It’s a book called Say The Thing. That’s my specialty: saying things!

Published by Hay House, my boundary phrase book Say The Thing is available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback wherever books are sold in English and Polish.

Visual Description Written by Kami:
Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair and a pink low cut tank top. She is sitting in front of a bookcase with houseplants spilling over the edges and gesturing with a paperback copy of her book Say The Thing.

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06/26/2026

My response to: “Why do you take everything so seriously? We’re just joking around.”

From page 163 in my boundary phrase book Say The Thing:

“This is serious to me because the people you are joking about are people that I know and care about. I would take it just as seriously if someone was making cruel jokes about you.”

Visual Description Written by Kami:
There are two characters in this video both played by Kami. The first character is Kami wearing a white hoodie with the hood up and facing left speaking off screen. The second character is Kami wearing her usual orange tank top, blue denim overalls, and holding a paperback copy of Say The Thing in her hands. She is facing right speaking off screen as if to respond to the first character.
Behind both characters is a bookcase with houseplants across the top and pothos vines chaotically climbing the wall.

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06/25/2026

What to say when they’re “joking” about someone’s body size.

Response One:
Hey, don’t say that. I wouldn’t allow someone to make that joke about you behind your back so I’m not gonna let you make jokes like that behind someone else’s back.

Response Two:
Whoa! It’s not okay to joke about people’s appearances like that. Knock it off!

Response Three:
That’s not funny.

For more boundary phrases, I wrote a whole book of them called SAY THE THING. It’s available in paperback, ebook, and audiobook (read by me!) in both English and Polish languages.

Visual Description Written by Kami:
The words “What to say when they’re joking about someone’s body size” are across the top of the video. Directly speaking to the camera, Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair, an orange tank top, and denim overalls. Behind her is a bookcase with houseplants across the top and pothos vines chaotically climbing the wall.

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06/24/2026

How I reply to “ist” jokes: That’s not funny to me.

You don’t owe anyone your laughter or attention. Especially if what they’re saying goes against your values and ethics.

For more boundary phrases, I wrote a whole book of them called SAY THE THING. It’s available in paperback, audiobook (read by me!), or ebook in both English and Polish languages.

Visual Description Written by Kami:
Directly speaking to the camera, Kami is a fat white woman with short sandy hair, an orange tank top, and denim overalls. Behind her is a bookcase with houseplants across the top and pothos vines chaotically climbing the wall.

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