Mikah Salonies, LPC

06/08/2026

06/08/2026

This

the soul & the human

06/06/2026

Hard 💌

"It's so hard," said the fox.

"I know," replied the moon, "but remember, it's the difficult times in life that have the most to teach us."

With love,
Stacey 🦊🌙

✨Words and illustrations taken from my hardcover book ‘Fox Under The Moon – Seasons of Comfort and Hope’

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05/26/2026

**“In some families, ADHD was never recognized.
It was renamed every generation.”**

The grandmother was called “scatterbrained.”

The mother was called “too emotional.”

The uncle was “gifted but inconsistent.”

The cousin was “lazy with so much potential.”

And the child growing up in that family quietly learns something dangerous very early:

“We don’t struggle here. We just blame ourselves harder.”

As a clinician, one of the most emotional moments is watching someone realize their lifelong shame may have had a neurological explanation all along.

Not an excuse.
An explanation.

Because when ADHD runs through a bloodline, it rarely arrives looking obvious.

Sometimes it looks like brilliance.

A family full of creative thinkers.
Fast talkers.
Entrepreneurs.
Artists.
Problem-solvers.
People who can survive chaos better than most.

But underneath that brilliance is often exhaustion nobody talks about.

Half-finished projects.
Constant overwhelm.
Emotional burnout.
Forgotten appointments.
Explosive arguments followed by guilt.
Sleeping too late because the brain finally became quiet at midnight.

And generation after generation, these patterns become normalized.

Not because nobody cared.

Because nobody had language for what they were experiencing.

Research consistently shows ADHD has a strong genetic component. In many families, once one person is identified, relatives begin recognizing the same lifelong patterns in themselves.

Suddenly the stories connect.

Why grandma could never sit still.
Why mom always felt emotionally overloaded.
Why dad bounced between hobbies every few months.
Why someone in the family always seemed simultaneously incredibly intelligent and deeply overwhelmed.

The painful part is that many adults grew up being corrected for symptoms instead of supported through them.

They learned masking instead of regulation.

So now you have generations of people who became experts at surviving while privately feeling like they were failing at normal life.

And often, the child who gets diagnosed first becomes the person who accidentally uncovers the entire family history.

Not through blame.

Through understanding.

Because once someone finally sees the pattern clearly, the conversation in the family slowly changes from:

“What is wrong with you?”

to:

“Wait… you experienced that too?”

And for many people, that is the first time their struggles stop feeling personal and start making neurological sense.

05/10/2026

Wow… 🤯

05/10/2026

You coming or what?

05/06/2026

Two people who dissolve into each other do not build a more intimate relationship. They build a more fragile one. The relationship becomes everything and that everything becomes a pressure neither person can sustain.

Two full people who choose each other consistently is the more durable form.

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05/05/2026

The relationships that stay close over decades are not the ones that have the fewest problems. They are the ones that surface problems while they are still small.

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