Th3 Auth3ntic Feminin3

11/19/2025

08/12/2025

“There’s a difference between standing up for yourself, setting boundaries where needed and having confidence that drives.. than getting defensive because the other person speaks truth and you sit too high amongst your ego to take accountability, enforcing control and being so arrogant actually to the point that you’re delusional.

I heard someone say once.. if the boundaries I’m setting are making you uncomfortable, then GOOD that means they are working!

The boundaries I set are supposed to make you uncomfortable because it requires you to fix or heal something that you once otherwise didn’t think was a problem.

Healing and fixing requires change.. change is growth, growth is abundance!

I like to think of it like when you break a bone.. to heal or fix your bone you most times have to pop it back in place before the doctors then put you in a cast!

That’s what healing is.. after you’ve been broken, it still hurts to be put back together and you need support through it all!

That’s the purpose of relationship.

In Latin the root word “relation” means “to bring or carry back.” And in Latin the root word “ship” means “one’s vessel.”

Whether family, friends or lover.. relationships are our part of a higher purpose to “bring each other back to one’s vessel!”

But first before we can do that we must fix or heal the parts of ourselves that don’t belong in our most highest and truest vessel.

The whole purpose of this rat race in life.. is to grow in relationship with each other so that we can ultimately reach “one true vessel” which is “God,” “Yeshua,” “Buda” or even “The universe.”

Whatever you like to call it.. it’s union of each other, all in one’s self!

So honestly what are you doing if you’re not trying to grow on your own, or grow in your relationship?

Your partner is going to challenge your ego, take away your control and make you question your confidence.. because they are either subconsciously or consciously doing this on purpose for your growth and for your union in partnership!

So next time you are fighting or arguing with your partner.. take a step back, sit down and try listening first to all they have to say without interrupting, and then ask yourself if what they are saying is true, and if it’s not true try humbling yourself or if it is true again try humbling yourself!

Thanks,
Love and Light

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02/07/2025

02/06/2025

10:10 PM

Today as I began meditating with my “womb” as I like to call it, I came across a quote in a book I own called “home body” by Rupi Kaur. It says “ I have difficulty separating abusive relationships from healthy ones, I can’t tell the difference between love and violence - it all looks the same.” As it struck a deep center in my body, it got me thinking about the many abusive relationships I’ve endured, that I also presently endure and how often I’ve viewed them as love, including the abusive relationship I have with myself. I’ve often criticized my being and body, doubted myself, lost hope in myself and fed it negative thoughts, things and beliefs. How often do we take a step back in our lives and consider the connection we have with ourselves and how it may be contributing to toxic relations we have with others. I’ve said for quite some years now how the first step to manifestation is embodying and believing in what you wish for. So my question is how can we expect to be treated with respect, love, loyalty and truth if we first don’t treat ourselves in these ways? If you would never tell your daughter that her tummy is too round then why do you say it to yourself? The last several years of my life I have battled the relationship between love and violence within myself. I have suffered physical, sexual, psychological and emotional abuse. I have experienced death and betrayal, I have been through loss and miscarriage and I have felt loneliness, heartbreak and anger! So much anger.. at myself, at others, at the world and at God. And not once did I stop and think how I may have allowed or even contributed to the trials I have experienced. I have blamed and shamed myself many times.. but when do I ever give myself gratitude or recognition for the ways I have loved, served, taught and believed in myself and others! I honestly, from the deepest parts of my soul very rarely stop and thank myself and my body for how much I’ve endured, fought for and completed in my life.

Today, this is my message for you.. more specifically my feminines, but ask yourself when was the last time you turned around and felt envious of yourself, when did you last wish you could be the girl you once were or were even jealous of the empress you are becoming? If in this moment, or ever, you are afraid, doubtful or feel unworthy in your heart.. you must be afraid of, doubtful and deem unworthiness to the version of you that does not believe in the beautiful, smart, loving, powerful and most high version of yourself that you will become! She deserves healthy love, from others and most importantly from herself.. know the difference!!! ✨🤍

12/22/2024

Connor and I went on a little roadtrip a couple days ago to attend my ex boyfriends funeral who committed su***de. After the services we drove a little further to see Colorado and when we hit the Utah/Colorado borderline he asked to stop and take a picture by the sign! I remember getting out of the car and trying to fix my hair, get the perfect lighting, the perfect angle, the perfect picture if you must. Connor told me he liked this one but I got so annoyed because I didn’t.. so I had to take 6 more pictures and ended up not liking any of them still and so I gave up on taking pictures.

Just like anything in life and especially in HEALTHY committed relationships, you’ll realize how often you try to make everything look picture perfect to the outside world, but forget to tell them you’ve fought with your partner for the majority of your relationship and even at one point ended up in the mental health hospital.

As we try to brag to the world about how happy we are, we forget to mention how emotionally drained, physically exhausted and mentally challenged we’ve been feeling trying to learn how to simultaneously love our partner and still love ourself.

When we do the fun things, take the smiling pictures and post the memories.. we aren’t telling you how it wasn’t really fun though cause one of us got sick and we had to leave before we wanted too, we aren’t telling you how right before we took that smiling picture, I had just made him cry and we aren’t telling you how I had to beg him and argue with him to even get him to make the memory with me!

The point of all this is, that I just have to remind the people who are in love how authentically down to its core, true it is that healthy love is the hardest!

You are gonna have to wake up and do things you don’t wanna do, your gonna have to say sorry even if you didn’t do anything wrong, your gonna have to go without some things, your gonna fight, your gonna yell at each other, your gonna try to control each other, your gonna cry together, your gonna hurt together, your gonna go broke together… but that is LOVE baby! And that is life..

You’re not always gonna be happy, singing love melodies and waiting for your prince to sweep you off your feet.. sometimes your gonna be raging through the night, cussing up a storm and having to chase your prince down and drag him back to bed!

Reality is LOVE, the good kind that we all want.. is not picture perfect!!! It’s messy, painful and depressing sometimes.. but ya wanna know what if we look back on it we might later realize how the picture we have is the perfect picture after all! 📸