LOSS - Loved Ones Suicide Survivors Support Group

08/07/2026

08/05/2026

08/05/2026

I should have…
I could have…
I would have…

Guilt is one of the lesser topics talked about in Grief.

Although it’s a BIG one.

Your mind goes back and lives in the before. And we come up with plans on how we could have saved them. Or could have made something better.

Fix the un-fixable with the power we never we never possessed. But still cant process this fact.

So when you get in one of those Should/Could/Would spirals…

Add a but.

See..we are only human. We only had the information we had at the time.
We dont access tools of telepathy.
Or seeing the future.
Or saving someone from an illness.

When we are grieving we are already going through the worst feelings a person can go through.

And then we put guilt on top of it to make it even more heavy.

And it starts to crush us. Making it hard to move forward. We get stuck here.

When guilt weasels its way in to your grieving process remind yourself of this.

If i could change anything…they would still be here.

If I could have done anything humanly possible to save my loved one I would have.
In a heartbeat.

If I would have known it was the last time to (insert action) I should have (insert action).

BUT

Im only human.
And my mind only had the information it had at that time.
And bad things happen.

That we are absolutely powerless against.

So remember to give yourself grace.
You didn’t want this.
You didn’t choose this.
You are already going through so much.

Stop the could/should/would scenarios in its tracks.
Add the but.
Remind yourself you are only human.

And give yourself a loving and encouraging pep talk that you would give your best friend going through the same thing.

08/04/2026

07/23/2026

Grief is so much bigger than tears.
People often think grief is something they can recognise.
The tears.
The sadness.
The days someone cannot stop crying.
But those are moments.
Grief is far more than emotion.
It changes the way your mind works.
The way your body responds.
The way you experience the world around you.
It is carrying the constant awareness that someone
who should exist no longer does.
It is discovering that even ordinary moments have
been permanently changed by one extraordinary absence.
You find yourself exhausted, not because you've done too much,
but because your mind and body are carrying something that never fully rests.
You lose your train of thought because part of your attention is always occupied by a reality you never asked to live with.
Happiness still finds you.
But it rarely arrives alone.
Somewhere beside it is the quiet awareness of who is missing from that moment.
Perhaps that is one of grief's greatest truths.
It isn't simply that someone died.
It is that every day, your mind and body continue to adapt to a world that no longer contains someone they deeply loved and were certain would always be there.
- TCFV
Artist Credit: Unknown via Pinterest

07/23/2026

"My body, it never feels settled. It's because it is always looking for you. It doesn't understand a world without you."


Perhaps this is one of the hardest parts of grief to explain.
People often think grief lives in our thoughts. That if we could somehow stop thinking about the person we love, the pain might ease.
But grief is not just carried in the mind.
It is carried in the body too.
When someone has been a deep and loved part of your life, your entire nervous system has come to know them. Their presence becomes part of your everyday life in ways you never notice until they are gone. Your body learns the sound of their voice, the way they move through your home, the places they belong, the expectation that they exist in your tomorrow.
Then, in a single moment, everything changes.
Your mind, may in time understand they have died. It seems our bodies may not.
It continues to expect what it has always known. It continues to search, not because it has forgotten the truth, but because every part of you developed around a life in which they existed.
Perhaps this is why grief feels so restless.
Why your chest never quite relaxes.
Why silence feels different.
Why home no longer feels the same.
It is not simply sadness. It is a nervous system trying to make sense of a reality that contradicts everything it has learnt about the world.
People often ask whether we ever recover from this.
Perhaps recovery is the wrong question.
Our bodies were never designed to erase someone we loved so deeply. Instead, over time, they slowly learn to live with the impossible. The searching may become quieter. The moments of alarm may become less constant. But something fundamental has changed.
Not because we are unwilling to let go.
But because love has changed us.
The body eventually adapts to the absence.
But it never stops remembering the presence.
Artist Credit: Unknown AI mofified via Pinterest

07/23/2026

07/21/2026

Emotionally I’m somewhere between feeling everything all at once and not feeling anything at all.
Emotionally I’m somewhere between learning to live with it and knowing I’ll neve be able to accept it.
Emotionally I’m somewhere between being present and being stuck in a memory I didn’t choose.

Emotionally I never knew you could be so many things at once. That you could be fine and not fine at the exact same time. Not taking turns. Not alternating. But simultaneously. Like a dozen tv and radio stations playing at once and your body just… receives every single signal without knowing which one to tune into; so you just stand there in the kitchen holding a cup of tea that’s gone cold, feeling nothing and everything all at once, and unable to tell the difference.
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Artist Credit: Mihail Zablodski (Ukraine, b. 1988-) "The Fatigue" via Pinterest

07/21/2026

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