07/17/2026
One of the biggest surprises for moms in therapy is realizing what Iâm actually paying attention to.
Most women walk in and immediately start explaining themselves. They tell me about the times they yelled, the guilt they feel because dinner came from the freezer three nights in a row, or how they havenât had the patience they wish they had. Itâs like theyâre trying to convince me theyâre a good mom before weâve even started.
But thatâs almost never where my mind goes.
Iâm much more interested in whether youâve been surviving for so long that it started feeling normal. Whether thereâs anyone in your life you can actually be honest with. Whether you even remember what it feels like to do something because you wanted to, not because someone else needed you.
Those are the things that tell me how youâre really doing.
I think motherhood has taught women to constantly evaluate themselves. Am I doing enough? Am I patient enough? Present enough? Grateful enough?
I wish more moms would spend half as much time asking themselves a different question.
How am I doing?
Because thatâs usually where the real conversation begins.
Iâm Eszter, a therapist specializing in pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood. I help moms stop feeling like theyâre constantly failing and start feeling like themselves again.
If thatâs the kind of conversation youâve been looking for, Iâm really glad youâre here. đ¤
