Gay Therapy Center

09/10/2026

The process of therapy also commonly asks us to move out of our normal comfort zone. Some days therapy might be described like this:

"Don't just do something: grieve."

Yes, we can grieve the loss of loved ones but we can also grieve what happened to us as kids or the loss of a deeply held personal dream. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2013/02/lgbt-counseling-go-ahead-grieve

09/09/2026

If you haven’t tried polyamorous relationships yourself, it’s likely
someone you know has. This type of non-monogamy is growing in
popularity, though polyamory is not a new concept — and it’s commonly
misunderstood and stereotyped.

Heather Butterfield, AMFT has both personal and professional experience in the world of polyamory. She says there’s a reason we’re hearing about it more often these days: People have only just started feeling safe enough to be open about it, and the Internet has fostered more representation, community, and connection.

The Gay Therapy Center team interviewed Heather to learn the polyamory basics, debunk some myths, learn why therapy is such a valuable tool, and share tips for those wanting to dip their toes into
the poly pool.

Read the interview here: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/lets-talk-polyamory-a-therapist-answers-your-biggest-questions/

09/09/2026

Many folks in the LGBTQ community grow up internalizing messages from our culture that being q***r is bad and there is something deeply wrong with them. For this and a number of other reasons, loneliness is very common in the gay community. In this video, Gay Therapy Center Director Adam Blum shares some ways to deal with that sense of isolation and tips for making friends as an adult.

https://youtu.be/3z6fyZ_Prts

09/08/2026

If you haven’t tried polyamorous relationships yourself, it’s likely
someone you know has. This type of non-monogamy is growing in
popularity, though polyamory is not a new concept — and it’s commonly
misunderstood and stereotyped.

Heather Butterfield, AMFT has both personal and professional experience in the world of polyamory. She says there’s a reason we’re hearing about it more often these days: People have only just started feeling safe enough to be open about it, and the Internet has fostered more representation, community, and connection.

The Gay Therapy Center team interviewed Heather to learn the polyamory basics, debunk some myths, learn why therapy is such a valuable tool, and share tips for those wanting to dip their toes into
the poly pool.

Read the full interview here: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/lets-talk-polyamory-a-therapist-answers-your-biggest-questions/

09/08/2026

Imagination is one of the most exciting human gifts.

Situations that you might abhor in real life, like unfair power dynamics, can be objects of excitement in fantasy. And they commonly are.

Many fantasies are politically incorrect. As long as they stay in the realm of play and fantasy among adults who enjoy them, they hurt no one.

Fantasy also allows us to express a deep seated and important part of ourselves that we normally don’t express in our daily lives.

Reality isn’t always fun. But fantasy usually is. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2015/7/gay-psychologist-what-you-can-learn-from-kinky-couples

09/07/2026

Adam D. Blum, MFT, the Founder and Director of the Gay Therapy Center, offers advice about how to have a successful open gay relationship in this 8-minute video.
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/23/gay-open-relationships-video-blog-1

09/06/2026

"For 33 years, National Coming Out Day has been observed on October 11 as a celebration of q***r courage and visibility. It’s a day of empowerment for LGBTQ+ folks to come out of “the closet” and take pride in living comfortably at whatever level of openness that might be, whether that’s self-discovery or publicly defining your sexuality.

Since its inception, National Coming Out Day has also been an invitation to rail against the bastion of a largely cisgender- and heterosexual-dominated society."

Read more on what coming out means in 2021, featuring GTC's Adam Blum, here:

Fift-seven anti-LGBTQIA+ bills have been passed in the U.S. so far this year. They range from bills banning gender-affirming healthcare for minors to bills giving businesses the right to turn people away because of their sexual orientation or gender identity.

09/05/2026

For 10 years, GTC has been eliminating the struggle and frustration of trying to find that “perfect fit” in a therapist. Research shows that finding the right match is very important to the success of therapy. We get to know you by phone to learn more about your needs and will personally make the match to one of our LGBTQ therapists. You won’t have to deal with waiting lists, sifting through profiles, or matching by algorithms.

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/schedule-a-15-minute-consultation/

09/04/2026

Yes, all of this sounds cheesy. Getting to know ourselves is a cheesy process.

Read more on our blog: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/grief-sucks/

09/04/2026

Dear Adam,

My husband and I are thinking about opening up our relationship. We agree that as long as we don’t have to hear about the other guys we play with, we’ll be fine. We also know that if we get the details we’ll be jealous and angry. In your experience does this strategy work for gay couples?

Signed,
Ready in Reno

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/23/does-dont-ask-dont-tell-work-in-open-gay-relationships