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Gay Therapy Center We offer psychotherapy and couples counseling for the LGBTQ community in San Francisco, New York, Los Angeles, D.C. or by Skype and phone worldwide.

We are licensed psychotherapists specializing in relationship and self-esteem issues for the LGBTQ community. We write a popular blog on these topics at http://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/read-our-blog/

Heather Butterfield, AMFT has both personal and professional experience in the world of polyamory. She says there’s a re...
10/28/2026

Heather Butterfield, AMFT has both personal and professional experience in the world of polyamory. She says there’s a reason we’re hearing about it more often these days: People have only just started feeling safe enough to be open about it, and the Internet has fostered more representation, community, and connection.

She’s seen how polyamorous relationships, especially ones willing to participate in therapy, can enrich lives. “Good communication is foundational for any relationship, but the more partners are involved the more important it becomes.” Butterfield says.

The Gay Therapy Center team interviewed Heather to learn the polyamory basics, debunk some myths, learn why therapy is such a valuable tool, and share tips for those wanting to dip their toes into the poly pool.

Read the full interview on our blog: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/lets-talk-polyamory-a-therapist-answers-your-biggest-questions/

The beginning of a relationship, during the “in love” stage, is delicious. We feel euphoric.  We enter into the intoxica...
10/27/2026

The beginning of a relationship, during the “in love” stage, is delicious. We feel euphoric. We enter into the intoxicating feeling that we are “at one” with another person.

However, according to long-range studies, the romantic obsession stage only lasts an average of about two years.

When you and your partner move into the reality that you are two different people, you are going to need additional food to sustain the closeness over the years. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2015/01/gay-psychotherapist-what-do-you-do-when-the-in-love-feeling-wears-off

When will life return to normal?�Right now there is no clear answer to that question. The uncertainty creates feelings o...
10/26/2026

When will life return to normal?�

Right now there is no clear answer to that question. The uncertainty creates feelings of dread, anxiety, and grief among all of us.

It’s exhausting.

It’s getting old.

While some of us have lost family members and friends, we have all lost a feeling of safety.

And at the same time, for some, there have been a few positive aspects in the midst of the crisis.

Some clients report that they have let go of FOMO (the Fear Of Missing Out).

Others are discovering the pleasures of walks.

Many people are reawakening to what is really important in their lives.

Below are a few tips to help you manage the struggle and stress. And I will suggest how you might allow yourself more room for more pleasure, joy, and yes, even s*x during Covid.

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2020/26/lgbtq-people-are-we-allowed-to-have-joy-during-the-covid-crisis

From one perspective, the opposite of masculine is feminine. Gay men tend to be hyper-aware of the masculine-feminine sp...
10/23/2026

From one perspective, the opposite of masculine is feminine. Gay men tend to be hyper-aware of the masculine-feminine spectrum. We are so focused on masculine versus feminine that we forget another spectrum exists. From another perspective, the opposite of masculine is the pre-masculine boy. Our fetishized longing for masculinity could suggest that, as gay men, there is a part of our masculinity that remains underdeveloped, like that of a boy. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/18/gay-therapist-reflections-on-masculinity

"What is hot?" Jack Morin, Ph.D, wrote the The Erotic Mind* back in 1995 and essentially answered that question. Eightee...
10/21/2026

"What is hot?" Jack Morin, Ph.D, wrote the The Erotic Mind* back in 1995 and essentially answered that question. Eighteen years later, the book is still in print.

Dr. Morin did extensive research on the topic of s*xual desire by collecting detailed written surveys about s*xual excitement from hundreds of study subjects. His findings can be summarized by the following equation:

Attraction + Obstacles = Excitement

Figure out exactly what that means here: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/gay-therapist-explains-what-keeps-s*x-exciting-in-gay-relationships/

Many folks in the LGBTQ community grow up internalizing messages from our culture that being q***r is bad and there is s...
10/21/2026

Many folks in the LGBTQ community grow up internalizing messages from our culture that being q***r is bad and there is something deeply wrong with them. For this and a number of other reasons, loneliness is very common in the gay community. In this video, Gay Therapy Center Director Adam Blum shares some ways to deal with that sense of isolation and tips for making friends as an adult.

https://youtu.be/3z6fyZ_Prts

Pride—the month-long “high holy days” event for q***r people—is a sort of guilt-free holiday: no family obligations, no ...
10/20/2026

Pride—the month-long “high holy days” event for q***r people—is a sort of guilt-free holiday: no family obligations, no gift-giving pressure, and no rushing to the gym after three dessert parties in a row.

But Pride, as it turns out, can be a lot like Christmas, Valentine’s Day or other emotionally loaded holidays: big expectations and a fear of missing out (FOMO), especially when everyone is on Facebook or other social media posting selfies of their fabulous brunches and parties. Or how about that moment when you run into your ex at the D**e March?

Starting to feel some angst? Trying to stay joyful? Q***r feelings run high and come in all colors of the rainbow this time of year. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/19/lesbians-and-pride-month-surviving-the-dyke-march-exes-and-other-peoples-selfies

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