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06/09/2026

Have you ever noticed that around some people, your body feels tight, guarded, and cautious? You find yourself withholding information, overthinking what to say, or wanting to leave as quickly as possible.

Yet around others, you feel lighter. Your shoulders relax. Words flow more easily. You feel seen, understood, and safe.

I often compare this to vitamin D deficiency. When we’re low on vitamin D, stepping into the sunlight can help our body feel better. In a similar way, when we’ve spent too much time in relationships that require us to protect ourselves, being with safe people can feel like stepping into the sun.

Pay attention to the relationships that help you breathe easier, laugh more freely, and show up as your authentic self. Those connections aren’t a luxury—they’re part of your healing.

Invest in the relationships where you feel safe enough to be known. Your nervous system is paying attention.

05/28/2026

If you’re someone who helps others navigate grief, you may find yourself nodding along to one or more of these scenarios:

• Someone you support has grief that keeps surfacing in ways that don't connect to any recent or obvious triggers.

• A loss that happened long ago seems like it should be successfully resolved or integrated by now, but also seems like … it isn't.

• Your training gave you tools for helping others in acute grief, right after a loss occurs, but not to help others understand or carry a loss from long ago.

• You sense that something formative that happened early in someone's life has been quietly shaping everything for them since. You know it. They know it. You just haven't had a framework for helping them understand the influence it still has.

Until now.

👉 Wednesday, June 3 at 10 AM PT (1 PM EST), I’ll be in conversation with David Kessler to introduce the Six Pillars of Early Parent Loss — a new method for understanding why this grief is different, why it doesn't follow the timelines people expect, and why it keeps showing up across every stage of life.

Join us for this free, live one-hour event to learn more.

Reserve your spot: https://www.rfr.bz/f4190b6

P.S. A replay will be sent to everyone who registers.

05/27/2026

Building a home library that reflects your child’s identity can have a lifelong impact. Representation matters — especially in the everyday moments. ❤️ Fidel poster is from SEMAI kids and bookshelves from Pottery Barn Kids

05/26/2026

My kids LOVE these homemade mango popsicles. 🍋🥭

What stood out to me wasn’t just that they ask for them often… it’s that when we run out, they don’t settle for something random. They’ll simply ask, “Can we have them tomorrow?”

As a therapist and a mom, I think children develop standards through repeated experiences. Through consistency. Through care. Through the little rituals at home.

Sometimes the smallest moments quietly teach children:
“I deserve good things.”
“My needs matter.”
“Home can feel safe.”

Parenting is often happening in the ordinary moments we repeat over and over again.

05/13/2026

Some questions may seem harmless, but they can carry a lot of weight.
Asking women when they’re having children assumes that motherhood is simple, desired, possible, or even safe to discuss. The truth is: we don’t know someone’s story.

Some women are trying.
Some are grieving.
Some are undecided.
Some do not want children at all.
And all of those experiences deserve respect.

Let’s normalize allowing women to share their journeys on their own terms; without pressure, expectation, or explanation.

05/10/2026

07/28/2021

Traveling with family moments of joy and convenience:

Arrive at the hotel on a Sunday while most people are checking out so you can have several days/nights of almost empty hotel and pool. With Covid, this is a total win.

Pack your high rise skirt or pants for cover up.

Have groceries delivered to your hotel so you don’t have to pack everything and also your don’t have to pay for everything in the hotel.

Pack our Multi-Use Bergamot Jojoba oil so the whole family can use it and you can pack less products (shameless plug 😂)

Also, hubby is getting good at my taking photos of me with the kids and alone…. This is for all the moms behind the camera. It’s ok for our partners to get shots of us. 😊

07/28/2021

Pro Mental Health Care! Especially for black women.

We are expected to be strong and resilient at all times. Take your time sis.

07/18/2021

Giving my hair to an organization dedicated to uplifting kids with cancer is one of my proudest moments. It also doesn’t hurt that this style has saved me so much time when getting ready (happy hubby lol). You can donate your hair to .for.kids . Their requirements are:
Hair must be 12 inches or more. You can find a partner salon near you on their website. For this style I used our Jojoba Oil with Kinky Curly Knot today and Mixed chicks leave in finished with goddess curls by . Cut by: at

06/15/2021

Last few days of maternity leave with my second born. Washing my hair is a whole occasion being a mom of two 😆. Grateful for this beautiful weather and our super light weight jojoba oil that has come through for this hair style. 🙏🏾🥰