08/26/2026
๐ Connection Before Correction
People living with dementia often become confused about dates, appointments, places, or what has already happened. They may forget an appointment even after receiving several reminders, repeat the same question, or remember events differently.
It can be tempting to correct them:
โWe already talked about this.โ
โI reminded you three times.โ
โThatโs not what happened.โ
But correcting or arguing usually doesnโt help them remember. Instead, it may leave them feeling embarrassed, frustrated, or anxious.
Try responding to the feeling behind their words, offering reassurance, and gently redirecting:
๐ฌ โIt sounds like youโre worried about the appointment. Iโll make sure you get there.โ
๐ฌ โEverything is taken care of. Youโre safe.โ
๐ฌ โLetโs sit together and listen to some music.โ
๐ฌ โWould you like to look through these family pictures with me?โ
During visits, bring something that helps create comfort and connectionโa simple photo album, familiar music, a favorite snack, conversation cards, or an activity they enjoy.
And instead of testing their memory by asking, โDo you remember?โ try saying, โTell me about this,โ or โYou look so happy in this picture.โ
We donโt have to correct every detail. Sometimes the kindest response is to offer reassurance, redirect gently, and meet the person where they are.
Connection before correction. Respond to the feelingโnot just the facts. ๐
