04/16/2026
This snippet comes from a conversation between and on the Postpartum Prep Podcast, and it’s so true.
When I teach my clients about matrescence, I often see them breathe a sigh of relief. It gives language to their experience, puts things into context, and helps normalize what they’re feeling.
So many of us enter motherhood carrying an immense amount of pressure—to know everything, do everything right, and do it all on our own. But much of the work of postpartum is actually in softening… managing expectations, giving ourselves grace, and understanding the depth of transformation that comes with becoming (and being) a mother.
When things feel hard, overwhelming, or out of control, it’s important to remember: you are not the problem. You’re not broken. You’re not a bad mom. More often than not, you simply need more support.
When we see a flower wilting, we don’t blame the flower—we tend to the environment. We make sure she has enough water, sunlight, and nourishing soil.
And yet, it’s so common for first-time parents to underestimate just how much care is needed in postpartum. So please, don’t try to do it all alone. Your whole family deserves to be held and supported through this season.
Call on your people. Receive the help. Hire support if you can—and don’t forget to look into insurance coverage for doula care.
Working toward a world where no mother is left alone on this most sacred journey🫶