Michele Hahn, JD, MFT Couples Therapist

07/10/2026

05/12/2026

So grateful to do the work I love: helping couples in California and Oregon slow down, reconnect, communicate more honestly, and find their way back to each other. Watching people move from disconnection and hurt toward understanding and healing is something I never take for granted!

05/08/2026

I became a couples therapist because I grew up watching conflict tear down connection in my own home. Early on, I became fascinated with one question: *Why do people who love each other struggle so deeply to understand each other?*

Now I help couples turn painful communication patterns (or fight cycles) into emotional connection. Partners learn how to truly hear each other, rebuild trust, deepen empathy, and become aligned instead of divided.

Because I believe conflict itself isn’t the problem... unresolved conflict is. When couples learn how to repair, relationships can become stronger than before.

Michele Robin Hahn, JD, MFT Marriage and Family Therapist California Lic #96478 Oregon Lic CALL/TEXT: 424-645-7776 EMAIL: [email protected] Licensed in California and Oregon

08/01/2021

Major changes such as marriage, shifting careers or settling into a new home significantly impact us. These transitions may cause us a great deal of stress and may affect our overall well-being.

So here's your reminder: don't be too hard on yourself during these changes and extend grace and self-compassion.

The more we try and resist these changes, the harder it takes us to adjust and cope with the situation.

If you are dealing with these changes with your partner, it's helpful to talk it out. State your worries, your expectations, and the things you are looking forward to.

Have you gone through major changes in your life recently? Let me know!

07/31/2021

When sitting through difficult conversations, try to remember to:

🤔 Choose the appropriate time to talk. Set aside a time for the both of you to be physically and mentally prepared to talk it out.

🤔 Start on a positive note. Thank your partner for the chance to have this talk. Allow yourself to listen and understand new ideas and perspectives.

🤔 Stay focused -one problem at a time. Overwhelming yourselves with tons of issues at one sitting will exhaust both of you.

🤔 Avoid selective listening. Filtering out what you hear for the discussion to be on your side will lead to accusations and blaming. Put yourself in the position of listening to understand, not to reply.

The more you sit and find compromise in difficult conversations, the more you gain clarity and understanding between you and your partner.

Do you agree? Leave a 👍

07/30/2021

Today is World Friendship Day! 🌎

Friendship can be one of the purest relationships one has in their lifetime!!

To have someone who will laugh with you, cry with you, share moments with you, be honest with you and someone you're allowed to be stupid with is truly an honor.

Share this with a friend today and celebrate World Friendship Day with them!

❤️ 💕 👭 👭 ❤️

07/29/2021

Getting out in nature🌳, even if it's your local park, does wonders for your soul. I had an impromptu picnic lunch 🍓in the park with a dear friend from my childhood the other day. Felt like we were on vacation chatting in the shade while enjoying a nice breeze.

Simple pleasures are more important than ever these days🌿

Hope you're able to find a moment of peace in these trying times.

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07/28/2021

So what's the difference?

❤️➡️ Doing things from love means it is entirely voluntary, without any expectations in return. You do something because you genuinely love the person and are willing to do things just because you know it will feel good to your partner.

➡️❤️ Doing things for love indicates that you are somehow expecting something, maybe the same passion in return or validation that you are a good partner or ? And, if you don’t receive what you’re expecting, it creates room for doubt and fight.

Knowing the difference between the two is a relationship changer.

Do you do things from love? Or for love?

💑 ❤️

07/27/2021

Forgiveness goes hand in hand with love. In fact, forgiveness is a manifestation of love. ❤️

When a couple is in a disagreement, unforgiveness serves as a wall that prevents both from connecting. This creates room for grudges, resentment and eventually will likely be the cause of the relationship's downfall.

On the other hand, forgiveness serves as a bridge for closeness, humbleness and growth. But it's not that easy, but remember forgiveness is liberating!

Do you have a hard time forgiving your partner? Comment down below!