08/21/2026
When your child dies before you it feels like the whole universe is upside down.
Because you are so attached to them in heart and body, it feels like there is no order anymore, and if there isn’t enough support for you, you can really feel like you are on the outside of the movements and rhythm of the entire cosmos.
This isn’t because you don’t deserve a place here anymore.
When it comes to big sorrow our culture really doesn’t have the elders, ground and practices that we know in our bones, to lean on when we go through such a big loss.
We don’t keen together. We don’t have a tradition of deep support of community through loss. We don’t have substantial rituals that guides the sorrow as a community.
If you had these things, you might know that it is not that you are outcast and floating,
But that your heart is broken and that you need support and guidance through a time of the explosion of your world.
You still belong here. You still belong to the trees and the ocean, to the moon at night and the sun in the day. To your circle of friends, and family.
May you feel the connection, care and help that you absolutely deserve through this time.
Do you want to join me for a grief-tending group that meets weekly and builds this road together? DM me or follow the link in the bio.