07/26/2026
We weren’t always in a great place.. even when we got engaged
Of course I knew I wanted to be with this person, but we were still really struggling in some areas
So right after we got back from the proposal, we went to church: April 2025. We tried it b/c so many of y’all recommended it!
I knew that actually going would either make or break for it me- I wouldn’t go for almost 3 decades
We happened to hear a 2-part sermon at Scottsdale Bible Church | AZ on the husband + wife’s role in marriage. And it landed so hard for me. And Oto. So we agreed to come back the following week for part 2- and now we are still going (and loving it!)
➡️ Oto & I joined ReEngaged last year, and it changed our relationship into the best it’s ever been- truly. (And yes, we both still drive each nuts sometimes)
MUCH more patient, kind, considerate, stable, and better communication!! 7 years of therapy was great, but it is something totally different to be in a group with so many other couples sharing- the real stuff, not the “church-approved” stuff
I held nothing back. Maybe to test them to see if I’d feel judged. But I haven’t- and I said some wild (but true) things. Only to be met with compassion + support
Our way wasn’t working. I surrendered how it all would work out. We both did in our own ways, and decided to create a Christ-centered relationship.. Individually, and with each other. Vertically, and horizontally, as many say.
I know church hurt is real. Or questions like, “If God were real, why would he let x happen?” I asked all the same questions myself. I asked every question I could think of when at church groups.
I used to go to Catholic school, Sunday School/CCD, altar girl at mass, and full-blown athiest. But that changed for me around 28, and my faith has absolutely strengthened over the last year. It kept me strong in a year of uncertainty regarding my lymph nodes/breast/BIRADS 5
I don’t have conditional love for others because you do or don’t believe what I believe. I found my path to the Lord at 37/38, so I understand someone not believing. That was me.
What are your thoughts on this? Are you also a follower of Christ? ❤️