07/22/2026
When I first met Ryan, the first thing that stood out to me, and not because it was conscious thought. It was what I felt in my body.
I felt safe. Safe to be me. My whole body would relax.
We would talk for hours. I could openly share my hopes, dreams, fears and wounds. And they were all held with the same energy.
Genuine care and interest. He wasnât judging me or trying to make me different. He wasnât trying to control or trick me.
It wasnât until I became aware of this that I realized how wounded or hurt I was from my past relationship.
Eventually my patterns revealed themselves because I never truly healed them.
The hypervigilance I thought was just âbeing really observantâ or âreally good at reading the roomâ
The way Iâd brace for impact. Emotional or mental. How Iâd start preparing for him to leave before there was even any reason to think he would.
A healthy relationship doesnât just feel good or safe. It holds up a mirror.
And suddenly you can see all the places you protect yourself from love instead of receiving it. How you self sabotage or still act with your inner parts as drivers.
How your old ways of being werenât wrong. You learned them and they served you well, but you canât take them with you any longer.
It isnât something to be ashamed of. I truly believe it is what happens when your body finally feels safe enough to tell you the truth.
The question is, are you ready to hear it?
It is telling you âhear this so you can heal this. you are ready dear oneâ
Send it to the friend who feels likes they are broken so they can know that they are not.
