Karen Joyce, LMHC, LPCC

10/15/2026

10/11/2026

10/11/2026

Some relationship red flags are easy to miss because they do not always look dramatic.

It might be the friend who makes cruel comments, then says you are “too sensitive”. The partner who ignores your need for space. The family member who brings up your private struggles when they are angry. The person who hurts you, then acts completely normal and expects you to do the same.

Over time, this can leave someone second-guessing themselves, apologising for having boundaries, or feeling like they are always walking on eggshells.

Healthy relationships are not perfect. People get things wrong. But respect means listening when someone says no, taking responsibility without excuses, keeping confidences, and caring about how your actions affect the other person.

If a relationship regularly leaves you feeling small, guilty, anxious or unsafe, that feeling matters. You are not asking for too much by wanting kindness, honesty and room to be yourself.

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10/03/2026

09/27/2026

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08/22/2026

When we over-identify with emotions, we suffer more. But mindfulness and self-compassion help us relate to our feelings without becoming them— instead, we hold them with care.

Next time a strong emotion comes up, try to pause and say to yourself: “This is a moment of suffering. May I be kind to myself.” Notice the shift.

04/16/2026

Everyone talks about triggers.
Not enough people talk about glimmers.

Glimmers are the opposite of a trigger.
They’re small moments that help your nervous system feel a little safer.
A little calmer.

It might be quiet.
Fresh air.
Music you love.
A person you feel safe around.

Nothing big. Nothing complicated.
Just small things your nervous system recognizes as “okay.”

They’re easy to miss.
When you’re in survival mode, your brain is wired to focus on what feels wrong or unsafe.

But once you start noticing glimmers, you realize they’re there more often than you thought.

And paying attention to them can help you understand what your system needs to come back to calm.

That’s not everything.
But it’s a step.