06/17/2026
Thank you for sharing.
The hardest thing nobody told me after losing my baby is how incredibly lonely grief can be.
Not just the kind of loneliness that comes from missing your child, but the loneliness of carrying a love so big that most people around you can’t fully understand it.
You spend your days trying to fill a void that can never truly be filled. You want to talk about your baby, say their name, share their story, but sometimes it feels like the world has moved on while you’re still carrying them with every breath.
Some days you find yourself pretending you’re okay just to make other people feel more comfortable. You smile when you’re breaking. You say you’re doing better when you’re barely keeping your head above water.
And if you’re a loss mom with other children, there can be another layer of guilt and heartbreak. You’re grieving one child while trying to be present for the ones still here. You’re making meals, folding laundry, reading bedtime stories, showing up for your family, all while carrying a pain that never leaves your side. Some days it feels impossible to hold both grief and motherhood in the same hands.
It’s especially isolating when you’ve lived through something that no parent should ever have to experience, and no one around you truly understands the weight of it. So you sit alone with your thoughts, asking the same questions over and over:
Why my baby?
Why me?
Why did God allow this?
Grief has a way of making you feel forgotten. It can make you feel like you’re drowning while the rest of the world keeps moving forward.
If you’re a loss mom reading this, I want you to know that I see you. I see the love you still carry for your baby. I see the tears you cry when no one is looking. I see the strength it takes to care for your family while your own heart feels shattered. I see the way you keep going, even on the days you don’t know how.
You don’t have to pretend here. You don’t have to make your grief smaller for anyone else’s comfort.
Your baby matters.
Their life matters.
And your motherhood didn’t end when they left this earth.
You’re still their mama🤍
