02/21/2026
Yesterday I realized I've always felt like I needed a massage to hurt for me to feel like it was effective...
And so I shared with my massage therapist, I don't want to "fix" anything today, I just want to relax. I noticed what happened in my body as I said that out loud. It felt a little prickly at first. An internal dialogue kicked in questioning if I was even going to get anything out of it. And as I sat with it, it softened.
It's okay to do something just because it feels good. And even a step beyond that...it's okay to receive and for it to feel good. And one step more...it can be soft and at the same time, it can be enough. This alone is a loaded topic in our world.
However, this is a pattern I see all the time in my work and this is what makes my work feel like an act of rebellion.
We are told to go, do, reach, achieve and when we get there don't stop...keep moving to the next big, shiny thing.
And that's celebrated.
Being burnt out and exhausted, depleted and disconnected. That's what makes you worthy of that vacation time that's been stacking up untouched for years because it fuels the narrative that you're doing it the right way. And even better, you're doing it all and holding it all - alone.
Sacrificing it all, that's noble. Or so they say.
But what if you began to unravel that old story?
How would it feel to take a deep breath and feel your shoulders and jaw soften even 5-10%?
Because the magic doesn't happen in a state of doing.
It happens in those small moments where your system is given the opportunity to sip in safety. To be held in connection, to feel something different.
I tell people all the time, my work isn't big or flashy but it's always felt.
I've recently had an influx of CEOs on my schedule and it makes my heart so happy to witness their transformation. To see their bodies soften as their systems expand to allow for success to co-exist with greater ease. What an honor.
Their job description and demands don't change, their internal landscape does. And that makes a world of difference.
Our patterns show up in all different areas, all the time. You're always being given information on what's happening beneath the surface. And you're always able to choose a new way.
How will you choose to move forward?
Letting in that support sounds pretty great, doesn't it?
I'm only a DM away. 🫶🏼
