10/18/2026
Do you ever feel like you're constantly thinking about how other people perceive you?
Maybe you replay conversations, overthink your tone, or find yourself adjusting how you show up depending on who's around.
For many Black women, women of color, and LGBTQIA+ individuals, anxiety can be connected to the pressure to feel accepted, understood, or safe expressing their authentic selves.
Over time, constantly adapting to others' expectations can leave you questioning your own needs, wants, and identity.
Belonging shouldn't require abandoning parts of yourself. β¨
Zola therapist Essie Connor explores how anxiety, identity, and the desire for acceptance can intersect, and why making space for your own needs matters.
Essie is currently accepting new clients in Maryland and Virginia for online therapy. She specializes in supporting q***r BIPOC individuals and high-functioning women of color navigating anxiety, identity exploration, and challenges with belonging and self-expression.
π§‘ Ready to get started? Visit www.zola-counseling.com/contact to book a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation with Essie to see if working together might be a good fit.