07/08/2026
Kids ask hard questions. That is actually a good sign — it means they are listening to understand. Here is how SAMHSA's Talk They Hear You campaign recommends handling some of the most common ones:
"Why is alcohol bad for me?" — Explain that alcohol is harmful to a still-developing brain, affects judgment, and can lead to serious consequences including accidents, academic problems, and mental health issues like depression and anxiety. Stick to the facts rather than trying to scare them.
"Did you drink or use drugs when you were a kid?" — Honesty matters here. If you did, acknowledge it and acknowledge it was risky. Emphasize that we now know even more about the harm these substances cause to young people. Your story, told thoughtfully, can be one of the most credible things your child hears.
"You drink, so why can't I?" — Remind your child that underage drinking is against the law and that children's minds and bodies are still developing. Alcohol affects a young person's judgment and health far more significantly than it affects a fully developed adult.
"What if my friends ask me to try something?" — This is where preparation matters most. Work with your child to develop an exit plan — a simple phrase they can use, or a code word they can text to a family member when they need a way out of an uncomfortable situation.
Having answers ready does not mean the conversation has to feel rehearsed. It just means you are ready when the moment comes.
Learn more at www.underagedrinking.samhsa.gov
SAMHSA’s national youth substance use prevention campaign helps parents and caregivers, educators, and community members get informed, be prepared, and take action to prevent underage drinking and other substance use.