09/06/2026
A dad cried on my office last week. My age, years of back pain, and an enormous amount of frustration, fear, and guilt. Believe it or not, I didn’t cry this time. 😂
But I know exactly what he’s been dealing with, I was lucky enough to be trusted for him to expose those feelings to me. The amount of feelings underneath what was shown was like an iceberg.
Frustration: from a couple of hard-working dads that couldn’t figure it out, which we enjoy to do.
Fear: of becoming what they see their parents become. Fear of becoming what they swore they wouldn’t. The dad who sits out. The dad that doesn’t participate. The dad with outburst because his body is always in distress.
Guilt: a dagger. Knowing you’re not who you think and say you are. But the risk of things getting worse always trumps the courage and willingness to be the dad they want to be.
Back pain doesn’t have to ruin your life. It’s ok to ask for help.
His second visit, he walked in more relaxed, actually with a hint of of a smile. The smile was just resting on his face naturally, not forced, not for show.
He’s 40% he says after his first visit. He’s had less frequent pain, less intense pain, all while haven’t needed to take any medications. He’s also got the knowledge of how to “assess” and “check” is condition.
Like understanding the dashboard lights of his vehicle. He sees it, he reads it. He has the game plan, the instructions of how to troubleshoot the light that’s off right now. He’s got some control and clarity.
Life’s starting to feel different, and there’s some optimism and hope, and some thoughts about what he’ll be able to do soon, that he hasn’t for years.
If you know a dad with back pain that’s struggling, send this to them. I’m ready, willing, and able to help.
It’s time to get back what’s yours.
