09/03/2026
Sometimes the things we learned to do to survive are the very things we eventually have to unlearn to heal.
We develop coping mechanisms.
We build layers of protection.
We adapt.
We keep going.
And those things served a purpose. They helped us survive difficult experiences, raise our families, build our lives, and keep moving forward.
But healing asks us to look at those patterns again.
Not to judge ourselves. Not to shame ourselves. But to understand where they came from and process the pain in a healthy way.
Journaling. Crying. Therapy. Giving yourself space to feel. Finding ways to release what you’ve been carrying without hurting yourself or anyone else.
Because the goal isn’t to erase the past.
It’s to learn from it, recognize the patterns, and eventually find forgiveness.
Healing isn’t about forgetting what happened. It’s about understanding it differently so it no longer has to control where you go next.
What is something you learned to do to survive that you’re now learning to approach differently? 🤍
Thank you Butterfly Days w Tami Jorden for having me!