09/27/2023
Regulation is not a one size fits all. What works for my kiddo, may not for yours.
Adapt the skills to fit your needs and your child’s needs. Consider asking yourself the following questions to lean in or know where you need to take breaks in attempts to helping your kiddo(s) regulate.
😮💨 What are my triggers in parenting? And do I feel equipped to regulate myself when upset or do I often feel guilty for losing my cool?
😮💨 Do I feel the need to rush my kids along to regulation before they are ready?
😮💨 Do I validate, empathize and ask questions to ensure my kids feel heard even when they are dysregulated?
😮💨 Do I redirect myself and kids from trying to talk or problem solve when they are dysregulated?
😮💨 Are their skills I’ve practiced with my kid prior to the moment of needing them, and do I offer to do it with them or am I communicating like it’s all on them to regulate and “use their skills”?
😮💨 While resolving the conflict, am I communicating love and understanding or blame/guilt/shame? Am I discussing how they/I can improve next time, or just talking about what wasn’t okay?
😮💨 Do I conclude conflict with my kid by connecting with words or affection?
Disclaimer: this page is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only and should not be used to substitute or provide mental health services.
