05/27/2026
If you’re someone who reads for mental health, relational healing, and self-understanding, I really think this is a book worth picking up this summer.
Attuned and Attached by Yolanda Renteria feels like the kind of book you underline heavily because it keeps putting language to things you’ve felt but maybe never fully knew how to explain.
I always tell my clients relationships are one of the biggest challenges for personal growth in life. Why? Because they require self-honesty, self-reflection, courage and growth. Our relationships with others are born from our relationship with ourselves.
And our relationship with ourselves is formed by early childhood attachments and experiences. This book is one of the best out there for reflecting on your own journey and how your childhood has shaped how you show up in relationships.
“The problem isn’t feeling sad; the problem is not experiencing enough happiness.”
As a therapist, I really appreciated that reminder and others in the text like it. So many people think healing means never feeling difficult emotions again when really the goal is learning how to create more internal balance. More joy. More connection. More safety. More room for yourself to exist fully.
I also appreciated how approachable this book feels. You do not have to be a therapist to follow it. Renteria talks about attachment wounds, hyper-independence, perfectionism, people-pleasing, emotional distance all in a way that feels compassionate instead of shaming.
She keeps reminding the reader that these patterns are often survival strategies, not personal failures.
And I deeply appreciated her inclusion of neurodiversity and the ways different nervous systems experience connection and relationships.
If you’re someone craving more internal balance and craving having enough safety, joy, connection, rest, accountability, and self-understanding to hold the full complexity of being human, this one is for you!
Congratulations - happy book birthday comadre! 🎉
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