06/17/2026
I was going to make this a blog post and I still might, but I needed y'all to see this. Now. And stop it!
Over the last few weeks, I’ve felt the need to correct my clients on one major thing: minimizing their situation in our session.
Why are we doing this?
Hi, I’m MacKenzie and I work primarily with women who are moms. They’re smart, capable, driven, perfectionist, people-pleasing go-getters, many of them working full-time and parenting. And they have the audacity to sit in my office and lay out their struggles in one breath and in the very next, “I know this is first world problems…” or “I know others have it so much worse.”
“Nope,” I interrupt. “We don’t do that here. My office is the one space where you never have to qualify what you’re saying.”
And I mean it with my whole heart. As mothers and women, we do NOT need to minimize what’s going on for us. We have plenty of people who do that for us. We don’t need to join them!
We’ve been trained (and I swear there’s a biological component to this, too, I just don’t have the research to prove it) to put everyone else’s needs above our own. We’ve been trained to keep quiet about our thoughts, worries, struggles and even our changing bodies.
And as we fight so hard against all of this, here we are, doing it to ourselves!
Absof**kinglutely not.
Not in my office.
It goes without saying that there are people who have it worse than you. And it sucks.
But taking up space in your own life is mandatory!
You can’t move through the struggles if you’re not able to freely acknowledge they exist.
No more staying silent.
No more gritting your teeth.
No more minimizing.
Own it.
And don't forget to eat lunch for goodness sake.
You got this.
~MacKenzie
