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06/26/2026

You do NOT need a freezer full of colostrum before your baby is born. As if we don’t have enough anxiety already about feeding your baby after birth, you don’t need anxiety about feeding your baby before birth either. I’ve had a run of prenatal consultations this month who all were hyper focused on creating colostrum stashes before baby even comes.

I don’t know which pregnant mama needs to hear this today, but you do not need to be harvesting colostrum during pregnancy to be successful at breastfeeding.

Over the last few years, antenatal colostrum collection has gone from being a helpful tool in specific medical situations to something that social media has made many families feel they should be doing.

And for some, that message creates unnecessary stress, anxiety, and self-doubt.

IRL? There is a huge range of what is normal when it comes to seeing colostrum during pregnancy.

Some moms can easily express drops.
Some see quite a bit.
Some see a little and then nothing.
Some never see any at all.

What does that tell us?

Mostly that you’re pregnant.

It does not predict your future milk supply.
It does not predict whether breastfeeding will go well.
And it does not tell us how much milk you’ll make after birth.

I also frequently hear concerns that expressing colostrum during pregnancy might trigger labor. While antenatal hand expression is generally considered safe for low-risk pregnancies when approved by your healthcare provider, it is not a reliable way to start labor. If ni**le stimulation consistently caused labor, it would be used instead of medical inductions (and that’s simply not the case).

What actually triggers lactation and your milk to transition from colostrum to mature milk and increase in volume is the birth of your baby and the delivery of the placenta.

When the placenta detaches, hormone levels shift dramatically and your body receives the signal to begin increasing milk production. Then your baby latches, feeds, and removes milk, telling your body exactly how much milk is needed.

That’s how the system was designed.

In the first 24 hours after birth, babies take very small volumes. Drops to teaspoons to then tablespoons at a time. Through the first several days, we’re often talking teaspoons, not ounces. Frequent feeding, not large volumes, is what helps establish milk production. And we want that colostrum coming from YOU to stimulate production and not the freezer unless medically indicated.

This is one reason why breastfeeding directly at the breast is so important in the early days. Baby’s feeding behavior provides valuable information to your body about how much milk to make.

That doesn’t mean prenatally expressed colostrum is bad. I teach every single mother who comes to me for a prenatal consultation how to hand express while pregnant. It’s always so exciting to see those glistening drops of colostrum and reassure her that SHE HAS MILK!!! You already have milk before your baby is born and it’s ready for them. In fact, it can be incredibly helpful in certain situations, including:

• Babies at higher risk for significant blood sugar challenges, such as babies born to mothers with diabetes or babies who are unusually large or small for gestational age
• Some preterm infants or babies with scheduled inductions between 35-38 weeks where we would anticipated feeding challenges
• Situations involving medically necessary mother-baby separation
• If baby needs supplemented like for jaundice or too much weight loss
• Medical complications like postpartum preeclampsia or a large blood loss after birth that can delay milk transitioning or coming in.

For these families, having colostrum available can be a wonderful tool. But you do not need a freezer full of syringes to prepare for breastfeeding.

What I do love about antenatal hand expression is that it can help mothers learn how their breasts work and build confidence before baby arrives. Learning the skill of hand expression can be empowering and I encourage everyone to know how to hand express.

Just don’t mistake it for a test that social media is setting you up to feel like you’ll fail.Your ability to collect colostrum before birth is not a measure of your future breastfeeding success.

If you want to express colostrum, and your healthcare provider has cleared you to do so, go for it.

If you don’t want to, that’s okay too.

06/17/2026

Things your midwife says in labor and what you actually hear:

"Just breathe through it. Blow out like you're blowing out a candle."

(Said while the baby is actively crowning. I am attempting to blow out a candle while what feels like a watermelon is exiting my bu****le. Breathing is not currently available to me.)

"Drop your shoulders and let everything from your head to your toes just loosen up."

(My insides are currently being squeezed in a mechanical vice. But sure. I'll just loosen up.)

"You're safe and you're doing such a great job."

(I am in fact not doing a great job. I am fairly certain I am dying. These feel like different things.)

"You CAN do this. You're almost there and the only way out now is through."

(At this point I have no choice. That's not encouragement, that's just math. And honestly? A little brutal.)

"This looks like early labor. The best thing you can do right now is rest."

(Said as my midwife tucked me into my own bed and handed me sleepy herbs. I'm sorry. EARLY? This cannot be early. I refuse to accept early. Early is not possible right now.)

"You really need to try and eat something to keep your energy up for pushing."

(The thought of eating anything ever again is offensive to me. I have decided this baby is never coming out and food is no longer part of my life.)

"Why don't you snuggle up with your husband and get some oxytocin flowing to help pick up those contractions?"

(Ma'am. Have you seen me? I am a sweaty, leaking, enormous human who currently feels the opposite of romantic. My husband is also a little scared of me right now. Snuggling is not on the table.)

"Your body was made for this."

(Cool. My body and I are having a serious conversation after this is over.)

"Every contraction is bringing your baby closer."

(This is technically true and also completely unhelpful right now.)

"You're almost there."

(You have said this four times in the last two hours. We need to discuss what almost means.)

And then the baby arrives.

And suddenly every single thing we said was true.

You were safe. You did do a great job. You could do it. You were almost there.

Your body WAS made for this.

And it was worth every single second.

Happy International Day of the Midwife! 💕This morning we had the privilege of being with a woman as she brought her baby...
05/05/2026

Happy International Day of the Midwife! 💕

This morning we had the privilege of being with a woman as she brought her baby earthside — what a beautiful way to start International Day of the Midwife!

I’ve worked alongside Heather in her practice for almost 5 years now, and I’ve gotten such a real glimpse into what it truly means to be a midwife. It’s not just catching babies and holding newborns (though that part is magic). It’s the sleepless nights, being glued to your phone 24/7, playing Tetris with the office schedule to reschedule clients when a birth comes up, missing family events and your kids’ milestones, going days without seeing your own people, and fighting like hell to help women get the births they envision. The sacrifice is no joke.

I’m not sure I’ll ever have what it takes to do what Heather and all midwives do… some days I seriously wonder. But I’m so thankful every single day for the heart and dedication they bring.

To Heather and every midwife out there — thank you. The world is steadier and kinder because of you. 🫶

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