Lakewood Family Therapy

Lakewood Family Therapy We realize that no two people are the same and as such tailor our therapy to meet the specific needs of our clients. Just call!

We help those struggling with anxiety, depression, trauma, couples counseling, parenting, and grief. Whether you are struggling with anxiety, depression, family relationship strain, parenting, or any other situation, we will help you recognize underlying problems, magnify your strengths and adjust certain behaviors to see things in a healthier way. Our practice specializes in treating individuals,

couples and families. We offer
comprehensive services dealing with:

Family Therapy
Marriage Therapy
Parenting
Adolescents
Women’s Issues
Depression & Anxiety
Trauma
S*x Addiction
Eating Disorders
Mindfulness

08/28/2026
08/27/2026

Circles of Influence: Where Are You Putting Your Energy? 🎯

Not everything in life is within your control. Your circles of influence can help you recognize the difference between what you can control, what you can influence, and what you need to let go.

Focus your energy on what you can control:
✨ Your choices
✨ Your reactions
✨ Your boundaries
✨ Your attitude
✨ How you care for yourself

When you stop spending energy trying to control other people, situations, or outcomes, you create more space for peace, emotional wellness, personal growth, and healthy relationships.

👉 Learn more: Things I Can Control
https://reachoutrecovery.com/quote-things-i-can-control/

08/26/2026

Navigating Burnout by Severity, Part 7: Sustainable Bandwidth

At some point in burnout recovery, the question changes.

It stops being only:

How do I get my bandwidth back?

And becomes:

How do I keep it?

Within the Bandwidth Model, I call this Sustainable Bandwidth.

This doesn’t mean returning to your old maximum. In fact, your old maximum may have been part of the problem.

Sustainable Bandwidth is more about learning what your functioning actually costs, leaving some functional margin, and recognizing when your Window of Functionality is starting to narrow.

Maybe you notice you’re rereading the same paragraph. Your attention drifts. You lose your train of thought. Switching gets harder. You become more distractible or foggy. For some people, physical warning signs may also appear, like headache or a subjective feeling of pressure.

I’ve heard versions of that progression repeatedly from clients and from people in my social media community. That’s anecdotal, not proof of a universal sequence, but it raises an interesting question because pieces of it overlap with research on mental fatigue, cognitive performance, stress, headache, and migraine.

The practical question becomes:

What happens to you before you crash?

And then:

Can you recognize it early enough to respond?

Within the model, when we repeatedly exceed what our current bandwidth can sustainably support, I call that Bandwidth Overdraft. The downstream functional cost that accumulates is Bandwidth Debt.

So instead of repeatedly pushing past the window, Sustainable Bandwidth asks us to do something harder:

Learn the window you currently have. Stabilize there. Then gradually test more.

This idea has some scientific precedent. Jason’s Energy Envelope Theory in ME/CFS similarly emphasizes matching energy expenditure to perceived available energy. The Bandwidth Model is broader because bandwidth isn’t just energy—it can vary across executive, sensory, cognitive, emotional, and other domains.

The goal isn’t to permanently do less.

It’s:

Recognize → regulate demand → recover → stabilize → gradually expand → reassess.

Because being able to do something once is not the same as being able to sustain it.

Sustainable access is repeatable access.

And maybe the best measure of recovery isn’t:

“Can I do everything I used to do?”

Maybe it’s:

“Can I do meaningful things today and still have enough bandwidth to participate in my life tomorrow?”

Darcy Stephens, LPCC

References

Ali, D., Bougoure, M., Cooper, B., Quinton, A. M. G., Tan, D., Brett, J., Mandy, W., Maybery, M., Magiati, I., & Happé, F. (2025). Burnout as experienced by autistic people: A systematic review. Clinical Psychology Review, 122, 102669. DOI: 10.1016/j.cpr.2025.102669.

Bakker, A. B., Demerouti, E., & Euwema, M. C. (2005). Job resources buffer the impact of job demands on burnout. Journal of Occupational Health Psychology, 10(2), 170–180. DOI: 10.1037/1076-8998.10.2.170.

Bennett, A. A., Bakker, A. B., & Field, J. G. (2018). Recovery from work-related effort: A meta-analysis. Journal of Organizational Behavior, 39(3), 261–275. DOI: 10.1002/job.2217.

Brown, A. A., Evans, M. A., & Jason, L. A. (2013). Examining the energy envelope and associated symptom patterns in chronic fatigue syndrome: Does coping matter? Chronic Illness, 9(4), 302–311. DOI: 10.1177/1742395313478220.

Chauhan, S., et al. (2025). Chronotype and synchrony effects in human cognitive performance: A systematic review. Chronobiology International, 42(4), 463–499. DOI: 10.1080/07420528.2025.2490495.

Jason, L. A., Benton, M. C., Torres-Harding, S. R., & Muldowney, K. (2009). The impact of energy modulation on physical functioning and fatigue severity among patients with ME/CFS. Patient Education and Counseling, 77(2), 237–241. DOI: 10.1016/j.pec.2009.02.015.

Jason, L. A., Muldowney, K., & Torres-Harding, S. (2008). The Energy Envelope Theory and myalgic encephalomyelitis/chronic fatigue syndrome. AAOHN Journal, 56(5), 189–195. DOI: 10.3928/08910162-20080501-06.

Mantzalas, J., Richdale, A. L., & Dissanayake, C. (2022). A conceptual model of risk and protective factors for autistic burnout. Autism Research, 15(6), 976–987. DOI: 10.1002/aur.2722.

Raymaker, D. M., Teo, A. R., Steckler, N. A., Lentz, B., Scharer, M., Delos Santos, A., Kapp, S. K., Hunter, M., Joyce, A., & Nicolaidis, C. (2020). “Having all of your internal resources exhausted beyond measure and being left with no clean-up crew”: Defining autistic burnout. Autism in Adulthood, 2(2), 132–143. DOI: 10.1089/aut.2019.0079.

Sanal-Hayes, N. E. M., et al. (2023). A scoping review of ‘pacing’ for management of myalgic encephalomyelitis/chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS): Lessons learned for the long COVID pandemic. Journal of Translational Medicine, 21, 720. DOI: 10.1186/s12967-023-04587-5.

Sonnentag, S. (2018). The recovery paradox: Portraying the complex interplay between job stressors, lack of recovery, and poor well-being. Research in Organizational Behavior, 38, 169–185. DOI: 10.1016/j.riob.2018.11.002.

Sonnentag, S., & Fritz, C. (2007). The Recovery Experience Questionnaire: Development and validation of a measure for assessing recuperation and unwinding from work. Journal of Occupational Health Psychology, 12(3), 204–221. DOI: 10.1037/1076-8998.12.3.204.

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