06/09/2026
During a fight, your body can sometimes enter a "fight-or-flight" state where your heart rate surges and your brain loses the ability to think creatively or listen. We call this being "flooded," and in this state, healthy problem-solving is physically impossible. The most productive thing you can do is agree to a 20-minute "Relational Time-Out" to allow stress chemicals to leave your system. During this break, it is critical to avoid dwelling on the argument and instead do something truly relaxing like deep breathing or taking a walk. You will return to the conversation as much more reasonable and connected versions of yourselves.
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