Marriage and Communication Coaching

07/21/2026

Each of us has an internal "Good-o-meter" that, when we pause to listen to and follow our "Stiil, small voice within," we can and will choose words and actions that create or sustain Life.

Ask: "Does what I am about to do or say create and sustain life?"

When the answer is "Yes" go on right ahead.

When the message is "No" stop, don't do it.

When unsure, get with someone who will listen to you uncritically without suggestions or advice until you are clear.

Each of us has an internal, "Good-o-meter."

When we pause to listen to our "Stiil, small voice within" we can and will choose to create and sustain life.

07/15/2026

Without peanut butter all you have are two slices of bread.

Add peanut butter and you have a sandwich.

Without an "And" all you have are two individuals.

Add "And" and you have a couple.

Add "children" and you have a family.

Add communication and you have a marriage.

Marriage and Communication!

Are you running low on peanut butter?

Today is the day.
Now is the time.

Contact Paul today

07/09/2026

My invitation:

As soon as you become aware of a couple that:

1) Struggles to maintain the integrity of their marriage.

2) Is Premarital, about to get married.

3) Confronted with infidelity, restoring trust, and seeking forgiveness.

4) On the edge of, and considering divorce (but don't really want a divorce.)

I invite you to send them to me.

My promise:

In five, 90-minute sessions they will learn and then adopt the skills, insights, and best practices for a loving marriage that grows to last a lifetime.

Together, they will joyfully celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary.

Paul Zohav, M.Ed., has helped over 3,000 couples in Tucson build stronger marriages. Over 30 years of experience. Book your free discovery call today.

07/07/2026

Can we take our inner child offline and free up our adult lives?

Marriage and Communication Coaching Promises

Couples will uncover young, immature themes running subconsciously, beneath awareness, that distort our adult marriages and relationships.

We begin by asking,

What did you learn as a child about who you are, how you fit in, what you needed to do, believe, or act in order to get along, to belong, be accepted, loved, and feel safe?

Your inquiry would be something like, "I am. I am not. I have to be. I was expected to."

Answers to those questions will provide you with a snapshot of who you were and your experience as a young child.⁷

If you look carefully, you'll see some of those themes running you today.

A new future will open up for you and your marriage once we have distinguished persistent young memes running beneath the surface of your marriage.

Together, we overwrite them, replacing them with empowering memes that provide a resilient, loving marriage of mutual honor and respect that will last a lifetime.

Learn how to replace old, outdated memes with new life, with a new future.

Today is the day
Now is the time

07/03/2026

Attention all teenagers

Never forget that biology
Is solely focused in the nine inches
Above, below, and behind your belly buttons.

The rest: social media, intimacy, love, fun, music, dancing, all art, clothing, personal hygiene products, shiny hair, abs, b***s, butts, sports, etc.

The rest is commentary.
Just like this is commentary
Commentary.

07/02/2026

Words matter.

Martin Heidegger is quoted as saying that "Language is the House of Being."

By which we can understand that the words we use shape our experience of Being.

Words shape our experience of being alive, our world, marriages, families, workplaces, and communities.

It should be of no surprise that when we raise our children in a world where we:

"Beat the other team, crush the opposition, slash prices, kill that SOB, rule of thumb, beat them to the punch, kick them where it hurts, puncture illusions, etc."

We experience and witness a world of violence and toxicity.

For a radically transformed world, I invite us to choose the following words:

"I Apologize" in place of "I'm sorry."
"I am Responsible" in place of "I am Ashamed."
"I am Accountable" in place of "I am Guilty."
"I Intend" in place of "I'll Try."

For a new world, let's learn to watch our language.

Try it. You'll like it.
Words matter.

06/18/2026

Contrary to popular myths,
Love is not a thing.

Love arises under specific conditions.

Our experience of love comes from choosing loving behaviors.

In being loving and acting lovingly, we experience love.

P.S.
Love poems are words, not love, but when spoken, they give us an experience of love.

06/14/2026

What is childhood?
Training for adulthood.

What is the role of the parent?
Provide the child with safety, nutrition,
Experiences, and essential information.

These allow the child to grow,
Observe, gain mastery, and
Develop an operating system for
Life and future relationships.