Kersten Wilson Counseling, LLC - Root To Rising Therapy

01/12/2025

PSYCHOLOGY FACT Overthinkers don't want constant reassurance. They want consistent behavior so their brain can finally stop predicting danger.

It's a fascinating insight into the mind of an overthinker, isn't it? They're not looking for someone to constantly tell them everything is okay, they're looking for someone to show them, through their actions, that everything is okay. They're looking for consistency, for predictability, for a sense of safety that comes from knowing what to expect.

For overthinkers, their brains are constantly working overtime, scanning the environment for potential threats, predicting danger, and trying to prepare for every possible outcome. It's exhausting, and it's a heavy burden to carry. But when someone shows them consistent behavior, when they can rely on someone to be steady and true, it's like a weight is lifted off their shoulders.

Consistency is key to building trust with an overthinker. When you do what you say you're going to do, when you're reliable and trustworthy, you're sending a message to their brain that it's okay to relax, that it's okay to let their guard down. You're showing them that you're a safe haven, a place where they can feel secure and protected.

And it's not just about big things, it's about the little things too. Showing up on time, following through on commitments, and being honest and transparent in your words and actions all contribute to an overthinker's sense of safety and security.

When an overthinker's brain stops predicting danger, they can finally start living in the present moment. They can start enjoying life, start trusting others, and start believing that everything is going to be okay. And that's a beautiful thing.

So, if you're in a relationship with an overthinker, remember that consistency is key. Show them through your actions that you're reliable, trustworthy, and committed to the relationship. It'll make all the difference in the world, and it'll help their brain to finally stop predicting danger and start enjoying the journey.

01/01/2025

I want my kids to be _____ (fill in the blank)

As parents, we would shield our kids from the sadness of the world if we could, but feeling sad is healthy, important, and inevitable.

We can’t control what our kids feel, but we can let our kids define what it means to be happy.

By allowing our kids to move through their
emotions in a safe way, they will be curious and explore life with an open mind. 💕

30/05/2024

❤️❤️

13/06/2023

14/04/2023

Protect your peace at all costs. 🤍

I love you. X

25/06/2022

MY BODY.
MY CHOICE.
MY LIFE.

13/06/2022

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23/11/2021

The more you try to avoid disappointing others, the more likely it is that you will disappoint yourself. You may not be aware of it, but turning yourself into a pretzel to carefully avoid disappointing others will eventually leave you dissatisfied, unfulfilled, and disappointed... in yourself.

There are times when being true to yourself, taking care of your needs, and treating yourself well can conflict with what others want of you. And, you know what? That’s perfectly OK.

We weren't put into this world to simply attend to the demands of others, to constantly prioritize their needs over our own, or to always feel guilty or insufficient. We’re here to fulfill our purpose, to grow into the best versions of ourselves, and to find happiness and meaning in this life.

Remember to align with yourself first. Being of service/ helping others from a place of wholeness is very different from depleting yourself to be always on call.

But what about you? Are you afraid of disappointing others?

Send a 💖 if you are willing to consider not disappointing yourself.

22/11/2021

It has been fun partnering with Aspen MMA to bring mental health education to this group of awesome kids!
Thank you Ernesto for acknowledging the imprortance of education and prevention, and stopping stigma by facilitating human conversation.

08/09/2021

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