19/08/2026
Early environment and repeated patterns create a man to not be able to hold capacity.
What is capacity?
“To hold capacity for oneself means to recognize, honor, and protect your own mental, emotional, and physical limits. It is the act of treating your inner energy like a finite battery, allowing yourself to feel emotions fully, and refusing to shame yourself for needing rest.”
By- Life of wellness institute
I believe, not only men, but women do this as well. Always trying to please the other person more than caring for oneself. But if we can’t care for oneself, then how can we even hold the capacity for somebody else. Sometimes people view this as selfish. Wanting to have space, one’s own alone time, but really is that selfish? If we don’t structure our own life, with taking care of ourselves, how do we even have the capacity to be able to hold space for another? I find it fascinating, the difference between men and women. Really I feel like the difference comes down to each person’s individual perspectives. I believe perspective is developed of oneself through life’s experiences. Where one person would take a specific comment or interaction one way, another person would see it completely different. One person may see it as you critiquing them or criticizing their behavior where they become defensive and another person would take the same exact comment or statement as nothing but a statement. Whereas one does not take it personal and the other does. Where one becomes defensive and the other does not. I believe this all comes down to life experience and the perspective life creates upon each other each one of us. But in saying that, I believe it all comes down to working on our own inner self’s. The more we work on healing and regulating our nervous system, the more we can see things in clarity instead of an attack. Because are we each as human beings trying to really create harm upon one another? Is that really someone’s intention? Maybe so. Again, depending on life experiences. But from what I’ve gathered through the years, and what I have learned, I feel it is in our own best interest to heal that nervous system dysregulation, and wounding in order to have a more calm nervous system to be able to take life as it comes instead of being in constant survival mode. Can you see where you have become in survival mode? Can you see where in life this began? And how it’s affected your life going forward in different relationships with different people?
Scott Austin Martin, Men’s Identity Coach, talks about this in his Audiobook, “The Art of Man.” This was a great informative viewpoint from a man’s perspective. I am also looking forward to reading his book, Capacity, Link is below👇, as well as sharing it with my two boys.
What’s your thoughts? 💭
