Formosa Wellness - Lisa King, LPC

06/18/2026

I couldn’t agree more.

06/16/2026

What does it actually mean to be an "emotionally safe" person?

We often assume that because someone is a family member or a lifelong friend, the relationship is automatically safe and connected. We think that sharing holiday meals, exchanging gifts, or just being in the same room equals closeness.
But true connection requires more than proximity. It requires emotional safety.

An emotionally safe person is someone with whom you can fully relax, be entirely yourself, and feel genuinely wanted, welcomed, and seen.

Emotionally safe people:

Engage directly: They are willing to have the hard conversations instead of sweeping things under the rug.

Listen deeply: They hold space without interjecting, judging, or lecturing you on what you "should" do or think.

Show up consistently: They ask how you are doing and mean it. The relationship is a mutual give-and-take, not a one-sided street.

Commit to growth: They are actively working on themselves.

A Time to Get Curious

If you have noticed a friend or family member withdrawing, keeping their distance, or pulling back from the relationship, it is easy to feel hurt or defensive. But this is actually a powerful invitation to get curious instead of critical.

Ask yourself: Am I an emotionally safe person for them?

It is possible for someone to be at every family gathering but still feel completely ignored, overlooked, minimized, or isolated. If someone feels like they aren't truly part of the system, they will eventually protect their peace by stepping away.

Beyond the Transactional

If we want relationships to improve within a family system, we have to be willing to look in the mirror.

Have you invested in the relationship beyond the transactional? Giving financially or providing material things isn't the same as giving of your time and your emotional capacity.

To build a real bond, we have to do the work to truly understand the other person—to understand their world, their life experiences, and their heart. Without that, why would we expect them to choose a relationship with us?

At the end of the day, shared DNA or history doesn't create safety. What matters is whether a person feels secure enough to let their guard down.

Let’s look inward today. Are we building walls with our reactions, or are we building a safe harbor for the people we love? 🤍

06/13/2026

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06/13/2026

06/13/2026

In order to repair a relationship, presence and accountability are required. Continually denying, minimizing, or leaving issues unresolved, creates further divide and over time, closes the door on healing.

In order for repair to happen, one must be present, sincere, and willing to listen openly without defensiveness.

Repair is not a one time thing. Repair happens over time and with consistency.

06/10/2026

If someone respects you, your needs don’t feel like an inconvenience.

If someone uses you, your needs suddenly become “too much.”

Pay attention to who adjusts and who tries to make you feel guilty for even asking. That information matters.

06/10/2026

This.



06/08/2026

When people promise, an endgame, an easy fix to your trauma, especially when it comes to healing complex trauma, then they are selling you something. Healing takes time and sometimes we feel like whatever we do isn’t working, we become impatient, we become angry at ourselves, we become angry at others.

Keep going. I promise you that healing is so much better than staying stuck in our woundedness.